I am so freaking sick of my brother, he is twenty and still lives with us... not to mention he is a complete failure. My mother called me "stupid", etc. because I did not want to give my stupid brother MY hard earned money from working all because my brother does not carry extra change in his pocket. Twenty dollars? Not much eh? but I already wasted SEVENTY dollars on him, and NO one has paid me back. My mother insists that I am a "horrible person". She babys my brother and treats me like crap. I am sick of ebing treated like this. He says something rude to me, and then I say something back, and then she starts yelling at me. Seriously, I know that sibiling rivalry is HEALTHY, but my mother insists on making me feel like a stupid failure. My opinions are never important and she is more concern with my brother and work. I tried talking to her, but then she plays the victim and gets pissed off at me. Is there anyway that I can ever approach this woman? EVER?
2006-09-22 13:16:39 · 10 answers · asked by Ohay 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I forgot to mention that my mother has been gone for a week, and I ahve been cleaning my frekaing butt off because I thought that it would make ym mom proud. My brother didn't do ANYTHING. I tookt he trash out, cleaned the kitty litter, cleaned the house, scrubbed the bathrooms, and what do I get when she comes home? She COMPLAINS. Argh, I told her all that I did and she goes "yea, yea, yea." Oh, but if my brother did it she will all like, "Aww!"...
2006-09-22 13:20:11 · update #1
Okay hunny, if ur mom is acting like this when u talk,jus try to persuade her that ur the victim. when ur mom is like this, this means that u can have more freedom over ur life. if not already, u can go out wit ur friends,date an stuff like dat. u can also 2 have sum fun, tell his geeky friends(Even worse, jock friends!) that he is a stupid cry baby andtell them the dumb stuff he does. for example, he could have did sumthin real stupid like run and his pants fell down. u can even start rumors and make fun of him on the bus. trust me, its awsome, jus prepare to keep a low profile when u get in da house, take ur backpack andrun 2 ur room
2006-09-22 13:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by lilhotshigger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry if this sounds rude {its not intended to be} but after reading your post can i ask do you always make a fuss if ur mother doesn't praise u for carrying out choirs? if u do then maybe it no longer registers with your mother cos in time she might just see you as constant moaner and no longer pay attention to what your trying to put across??or could it be something that goes right back to your childhood? maybe you resented or felt pushed out when your brother was born (that's if ur older)
or if its like my house the excuse is "its a girls job"
what ever the reason i think you should try and talk to your mam without getting your self worked up n annoyed :)
Good Luck!
2006-09-22 13:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by ami_boverd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very unhealthy situation for you to be in, it is of course a classic rescuer/victim/persecutor - triangle.
I can only suggest that you stop rescuing people (for your own emotional health) and get looking for somewhere to call your own.
If you really desire a healthy emotional view of life you will need to practise 'Detachment' from situations such as these.
Books and the like from your store or library will have this subject matter in stock and I urge you to read them.
This worked/works for me - now no longer a victim.
Happiness for you in the future.
2006-09-24 00:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by treving 42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she's making you the victim and is not being fair to you at all. She needs to make him grow up and be a man or he'll always be a bum. She also needs to realize that she has a child willing to take care of themself...you need to get your own place as soon as your old enough. Good luck.
2006-09-22 13:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Memigen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
join the club
get used to it, till you can move out, i have the reverse situation, i am older but i get blamed for every thing and he sits on his butt all day. ii do all the work and he does nothing
2006-09-22 13:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you get a kick out of making up questions to ask . you must be very bored
2006-09-22 13:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u need to find anotha home ...i think ur mom has major problems and ya know some ppl jsut wasnt meant to be parents
2006-09-22 13:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is time for you to move out and be on your own.Let her "raise" your brother.
2006-09-22 22:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by hungerforknowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat her how she treat u and see hows she like it and then throw it all in her face..ane explain to her the situation..i know it suck to have older brother i have like 5 of them they dont let me do anything.
2006-09-22 13:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by amira1222 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then do not approach that woman.
2006-09-22 13:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋