Constantly tell their kids "if you don't stop I'm going to ....spank.... ground.... time out....." And they never do. They just keep telling them over and over they are going to punish them, but they just let them continue doing what they're not suppose to be doing.
2006-09-22 13:11:33 · 23 answers · asked by Tender Hearted 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think the parents will soon have out of control children, if they aren't out of control already. If you tell your child there will be consequences for their actions, you must follow through with the consequences when they ignore you. If you don't, your children will become increasingly difficult to be around and they will not be
able to control themselves in a classroom, or other places requiring their good behavior. Your friends and relatives will refer
to them as brats behind your back and to your face.
Most important, you are teaching your children life skills. As adults, most of us have learned about the consequences for our actions. When we learn this as children, it keeps us out of jail, it helps us to have continued employment and it enhances our relationships with others.
You are, also, teaching your children they can depend on you and your word. If you say it is so, you will follow through. Children really, really need this consistency from their parents and sometimes, if they don't receive it, they do more and more
outrageous things to get their parents' attention.
2006-09-22 14:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sactokat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actions have consequences. Empty threats are not helpful. Open communication is always best if it can be established. I found this to be very true for me raising my two sons. I wanted to break the cycle of violence I endured so I tried to sit down and talk things out before I lost my cool. My kids turned out O.K. One of them had a few run-ins with the law because of choices he made and freinds he ran with. But he soon learned to respect the law and life was much easier. Some things I wish I could go back and change. I had my own problems to deal with and that took away from time that should have been spent supervising my boys. If you aren't prepared to have kids and follow through with parenting as your main responsibility, then don't go there. If you choose to establish certain punishment rules you had better stick with them. Parenting is a GIANT responsibility.
2006-09-22 21:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Gregg J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you threaten a child, then do what you tell them your going to do. The children will just know they dont have to listen. I do think its silly like that one answer that those children will be the ones you see in court, and those parents should lose custody of there children. My mother always threatened me but never went through with it and i ended up just fine. I am not that way with my children though when i tell them i will ground them, or they will have a time out, I do it.
2006-09-22 21:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lucille 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's stupid. I was sorta raised by a bit of spanking, but have never been belted or whipped, but I think parents need to learn that idle threats get you no where. It's time we put a stop to this madness and do what parents do best - belt the kids into discipline.
2006-09-22 21:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by War Pig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents just do not know how to disipline their children. Some do not want too. Some just let them get away with things.
IN the sense of being in public...some are worried they will be called in to the authorities for even disiplining the kid. I do. My son tries anything we leave and go home. He is not allowed to do much after that until he can act right.
Other than that I can not tell you why people do not disipline kids.
2006-09-22 20:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by taljalea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the parents keep threatening that they are going to do something and don't then it will be easier on the kids to get away with things and never learn from the mistakes they have made. Which will make the children feel they can get away with whatever they want. Children have to realize that there are consequences for their actions or misbehavior's.
2006-09-22 20:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by contour85 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I figure they are just frustrated and don't know what else to do. I don't advocate spanking because it is not necessary to physically abuse a child in order to have that child behave. It is not necessary for a parent to ground a child either. but that wasn't the topic...
2006-09-23 06:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think parents like that don't need kids because their kids are going to go to school and torment the kids and then they'll get into trouble....that just doesnt work either they need to take classes on how to discipline your child/ren or really do what they say when they say they are going to spank them.
2006-09-22 20:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by britiani j 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These are the parents who do not follow through on what they tell their children. This will confuse the child. The child will probably do what he wants because there are no consequences.
Believe it or not children need boundaries. Responsible parents set them. The parents probably need a parenting class.
2006-09-22 20:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by robee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's useless threats. Kids figure out really quick that they can do what they want because they know they'll get away with it. You should never make a threat that you're not going to follow through on.
2006-09-22 20:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋