Why do I feel this way?????

Question

Why do I feel this way????? I am always feel kind of sad and very lonely.I think bad about my self. Nothing in life interests me anymore. When people talk around me I find their conversation very boring so I never talk with people.Plus I know they wouldn't want to talk to me,because I am very insecure,not fun,negative person. I always expect worst things to happen,and I always find someting bad in everything. I feel inferior to others. I never lead I always follow. I can barely make my self laugh. I feel tired all the time,anxious and sleepy. I really want to change but how do I do it,plz any one?

Answer 1

You sound to be depressed with your introverted personality right now. You're feeling insecure because you think whatever you say is not going to be appreciated by other people and in the end it's totally pointless to even talk to other people simply because you think they'll never be interested in your talking anyway. Are you feeling like this? You feel that the whole world is turning against you and you have no value on this earth? I've gone through this and I know it's hard. I'm not sure if this is depression, it may be a case of very low self esteem. First - all you need to do now is to get up and start standing for youself. C'mon, life is always challenging and you'll never know what's gonna happen until you try. You need to boost your self confidence in believing that the things you do and say will get other people's attention. And even if they don't, who cares? You have a point, then go make it to others. Everyone is different and is unique in certain ways. The reason why people never talk to you might because you never speak to them at the first place. Start making conversation, be brave and go make some new friends. Talk to them and do not be a follower. If you have ideas, speak it out and let others listen to you. It's unhealthy to think life in a negative way. Sooner or later your personality and self will dwell into pessimism if you never start looking at the bright side. You're sad because you're lonely, and lonely because you never have any friend, no friends because you refuse to talk to anyone, and refusal because you think everything's boring and pointless, you're feeling this way because you think you're worthless. It's not magic, you need to learn and start feeling good about yourself day by day. Mix around with positive minded people and start building the confidence in you. Good friends who want to help you will eventually support and help building your confidence. There is so much to write, I hope this far will help you feeling better for yourself. And if you don't love yourself, no one will. Remember - fate is in your hand and you have complete power to control your life, whether to lift it or to doom it. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

This is just good old fashioned classic DEPRESSION, hombre.
The issue is what's causing it and how to get rid of it.
Be leary of taking meds right off the bat, they can do more harm than good under certain circumstances. Question #1, do you have a reason to be depressed?? Is there some long term aspect of your life that is unnacceptable? Can you change it? If there is no real reason to be depressed, you just are, then you're looking at a chemical imbalance in the old melon. Nothing to feel stigmatized about, it's an organ like any other can get out of whack like any other. Would you stigmatize a diabetic or asthmatic?? No difference. Check out possible food allergies or sunlight sensitiviety/depravation issues, etc. first. Then go to meds as a last resort.
Best of luck - remember, it ain't YOU, it's just a problem that will have a solution.

Answer 3

It is hard to say why you feel that way, but let's start with your thought process. You are telling yourself very negative things and this may have come from your parents that put you down or blamed you or shamed you in some way. Now, let's say you are talking to someone else. Would you tell them the things you tell yourself? Doubtful, you would want to help them not tear them apart. So now think of who loves ya? Somebody knows that you are wonderful in many ways. Not because you have done something or are something, but just because you are you. Take away the money, power, and appearances and we are all just people being people, but we all have some sort of something special. Ok- so start to know that you do have some wonderful things. Next, do something for someone else and soon. Do not expect anything back just do it. When we become self-absorbed into feeling wretched about our lives and only focus on the negative it is easy to feel crushed in it all. We ALL have stuff in our lives and often times it is more in our imagination than a reality. Also, write down at least ten things you are grateful for, visit sites that have positive thoughts, quotes or are in some way inspirational. And last if you are self-medicating with drugs or alcohol it will not help you in the long run. It may be helpful to try st johnswart (an herb) or ask your doc for some antidepression medication. You don't have to stay on the meds forever, but it can be a great help in a short period of time to boost the chemical level in the brain that helps us to feel stable in life. Exercise can also help raise chemical levels.

Answer 4

I don't know your age or what your lifestyle is, but I do know that you shouldn't be feeling the way you described. You say you are lonely, think badly about yourself, nothing interests you, you expect the worst to happen, you are a pessimist, you feel inferior to others, you follow and don't lead. You are tired, anxious and sleepy. You say that conversation around you is very boring and so you never talk to people.

In all of this, the one thing that stands out more than anything is your desire to affect change. I'm not a professional when it comes to matters of the mind per se, but I do know this, call your doctor and discuss all these things with him/her. Would it help to talk to your parents, a close and trusted relative or friend?

On the flipside of all this, some of what you say about yourself is not all that bad. It's not so bad to expect the worst to happen. Less surprises. If you feel inferior to others, maybe you need new friends. When you say nothing in life interests you anymore, that tells me that you haven't always felt this way. Can you think of what happened that brought on these feelings? And if you changed certain aspects of your life, would that help resolve these issues? If you can't come up with any solutions, then you will need to seek help and don't be reluctant to do so.

Good luck and take care of yourself.

Answer 5

Yes it sounds like you are spiralling off in either self pity or depression. What happened that this happened to you? Usually people who are isolated and have too much time to "think" end up like this. You should be outdoors and doing stuff, involved in clubs at school and have all kinds of energy.

If you can't find a way to do this for yourself then go and get some counselling and guidance. Someone professional can teach you techniques but you have to want to help yourself and sometimes that means looking at things differently than you do.

Medication can help you if you feel you want to take meds. Most teenagers have a tough time when growing up and discovering who they are. Other kids can be royal little pricks and do a lot of damage on someone very sensitive and who is in a fragile state of mind to start off with.

I think it's normal to feel as you do, but you shouldn't let it take over every aspect of your life. You don't want to feel this way do you? Start with some self help books...go to Chapters or any book store and just hang around and browse till you find something you like. Read. When you are reading you're not focused on yourself but on expanding your mind.

I know you'll be fine if you just take your life and happiness into your own hands. Don't look at the cup as half empty but half full and keep working on filling it.

Answer 6

It could be depression. Depression isn't a sign of weakness or a character flaw. It's a medical condition, and there are ways to successfully treat depression.

Depression refers to:
A lasting sad mood and/or
Loss of interest or pleasure in most activities

Sometimes people experience several or all of these additional symptoms:
Changes in appetite or weight
Changes in sleep patterns
Restlessness or decreased activity that others notice
Loss of energy or feeling tired all the time
Hard time concentrating or making decisions
Feelings of worthlessness or guilt

Follow the links, and if the results of these self-assessments seem to indicate you are depressed, you should see your doctor or a qualified therapist, and take the assessments with you. If you are in school, take the results to your school counsellor, he or she ought to be able to guide you to someone who will help.

Answer 7

Join a support group for people who are depressed. Join Toastmasters. A few sessions with a psychiastrist will help you a lot. Keep in mind that you are just as good a person as anyone else. Respect yourself and others will respect you as well. You deserve that. Remember, you can feel better if you make the effort. It's worth it. Good luck.

Answer 8

First you get on the right med and go from there. Youre gonna feel better and more positive about things. Life, girls, family, everything will feel better. You wont hurt anymore. Youll have more energy and want to get out there and live your life.

Im sure theres a great guy in there, inside of you. Give yourself a chance. Dont give up on wanting to feel better.

Answer 9

I am sorry you feel this way yes it could be a sign of depression. But first before you go see you doctor or a psychiatrist maybe you should go to church and talk with the pastor. Are you christian? Maybe if you considered accepting Jesus Christ in your heart and prayed about your situation and asked others around you to pray you may begin to feel better. Hope I could help. You will be in my prayers

Answer 10

you aremost likely lacing in confindence. the first step to build that up is looking at yourself in the mirrior and telling yourself all the possitive things that you have noticed. like i have nice hair. or something. maybe try going out to dinner wsith some people that you have talked to recently. if none of that works you might have a depression problem and you should see the doctor. they have rx medications that you could take to make yourself feel better. also you are as eqaul to anyone else. you are infirior to no one.