been with him for 28 years, i love him , this is all i know , now i am sick in a dark hole , i just want to put a bullet in my head and end the pain
2006-09-22 13:00:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Put his genitals through the Kenwood, then throw him out.
2006-09-22 13:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
First of all, don't put a bullet in your head.
Have you talked to him about this? That's the first thing I would do. Ask why he is doing this, if he plans to continue, and what he hopes to gain from it.
Then ask yourself do you want to be with him regardless of his extra marital affairs? If so, protect yourself with use of a condom. If not, get a good divorce attorney if your husband isn't willing to quit.
If this is something you truly cannot live with then leave him, but don't end your life. I really can't imagine leaving a 28 year marriage but I know my life is worth more than a cheating husband and surely yours is to. Think of your children.
2006-09-22 13:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation myself only husband was seeing women he worked with. He even came up with a brain storm idea of having a open marriage in which my reply was, "OK I'll take the kids and go see a lawyer and we will then have our open marriage only we won't be married anymore and you can do whatever you want to do then. " ;o) And that's just what I did. Life's to short to hang with someone like that when there's plenty of decent men out there that will give you some respect. Your husband doesn't seem to care about hurting you so why stay. And don't lay any blame on yourself or allow him to, cause it's him who is at fault. Smile be happy and find the happiness you deserve. Good luck to you.
2006-09-22 13:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not all you know, you know its not right for you and that it makes your very unhappy. Don't let 28 yrs. decide your future. Begin a new one, as frightening as it may seem you can do it. The desire to end your pain only continues a cycle of self harm that if you are a parent your children will be the beneficiaries off. Stop the emotional attack on yourself, he is the one with the problem.
2006-09-22 13:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by ava_weis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set an appointment with your doctor. Get yourself checked for STDs then tell your doctor about your feelings. You are likely grieving the end of your long relationship. There are steps to grieving and the first is shock. One can get depressed in that phase, and it sounds like that's where you are. Have your doctor refer you to a counselor that can take you through the grief, and then you can make life decisions from a more logical place.
2006-09-22 13:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing or no one is worth putting a bullet to your head. You feel hurt understanably but......no woman should have to live with a pervert. Get out and do some exploring of your own and you'll probably find some one that will treat you with the respect that you derserve.
2006-09-22 13:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by icep6 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What ever you do don't kill yourself.I know that you say you love him but I know you love yourself even more. You have to make your decision about this no one knows what you are going through and what you have to face. Just constantly pray and believe you will find an answer to your problem.28 years is along time and we don't know what our spouse/significant other could be doing , it just haven't reached the surface yet.Talk to someone don't go through this alone"someone you can confine in."
2006-09-22 13:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by lil-bit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're hurt. But you have to realize this has nothing to do with you. It is his trip. Make sure you protect yourself if you're having sex with him. Is not unusual for men his age to go thru a mid-life crises. Too bad he chose this way to deal with it. Do things that you like with people you enjoy being around. Don'[t let his behavior take you down!
2006-09-22 13:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by beez 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. If you have any family friends you can go to, do so. Seek out professional help, rather than something that bad.
2006-09-22 13:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by emily_brown18 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't do that, he's nothing but a slug. Get away and look forward.
Things will change but not if you stay with this worthless parasite.
2006-09-22 13:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋