Since we had our son our life changed. he works more and we have no time to enjoy eachother much. When we do go out it is stressful because of the baby. Lately he has begun to ignore the baby and not want to spend any time with him at all. He willl not take his son out for a walk or shoping or anything without me. Is he going through a stage? Does he resent the child in some way? Is this natural? Will it pass?
2006-09-22 12:56:26 · 8 answers · asked by Holly G 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Our son is 7 months old. And is our first. I am urgent about this because we planned on another one and i am pregnant. But he is now acting like this the past 2 months or so.
2006-09-22 13:25:06 · update #1
It ounds like he resents the child because the baby is taking up all of your time. my advice, hire a babysitter for a night and go out to dinner with just you adn your husband and then talk to him about it. maybe make a commiment to go out to dinner or to a movie or something with just you and your husband once a month. It will do you both some good.
2006-09-22 13:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Cutie_wit_a_booty_08 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old is the baby? I'm assuming a few weeks old to a few months. If this is not the case, my answer may not apply.
It seems that men have difficulty adjusting to their new role as father. I've seen it in my husband and my friends' husbands and had it confirmed by my sister, who is a pediatrician. The dynamics of the family change and it is stressful for both partners as each adjusts to a new role. It is likely that your husband is trying to figure out how he fits into this new picture, rather than resenting the baby. This may be hard for him if his fatherly role model was absent or not adequate. It's also scary to have responsibilty for a baby, especially if he has never been around them. My suggestion is to get him involved in something small (maybe he could take your son out on Saturday mornings, so you can sleep in).
His discomfort will pass, but be sure that you get some time alone with your husband and keep your relationship strong. The relationship of the parents is the basis of a strong family.
2006-09-22 13:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Whirling D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is ur first child and he is small he might not know how to handle him nit might make him nervus to have him alone untill he gets a little older. some men won't admit that that there own child dose this to them give him time or some men feel like there child is an intruder on u guys time and can't deal yet may be both of u need some counsaling always rember just because u make a baby dosen't make u a father but get a baby sitter and make time for u to w/a family member u both trust.
2006-09-22 13:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by djonecat@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason kids ignore their father more than their mother is the bond that is developed at this age. He goes when you go? Sounds like it could be that he would like to have your attention. He does not get that as often now. Try an award system. If he can take the kid so you can get some things done, maybe you can have some special alone time with him when he gets back.
Maybe leave a copy of "Dr. Phil -Family First" on the coffee table.
2006-09-22 13:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hire a babysitter and go out w/o the kid.
Or, even better, leave the kid with grandparents (or get a sitter for the night) and go away for a weekend. The kid will be fine, and you'll get some alone time.
He probably misses spending time with you without the baby being in the picture. After all ,you're still his spouse, not just the mother of his child.
2006-09-23 02:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is wile for you your baby is a blessing and the most beautiful thing you have aver seen for your husband hes noisy taking over hes spare time after work and believe or not you have changed to you have your Minda more occupied with the baby's worries there for your husband feels like he comes in 2 place and he doesn't like it. for now he wants the baby to be your concern just try not to stress because of your baby you have to show to your husband that that's your baby and tell him how you fell about hes behaviour and how uncomfortable it makes you fell and hopefully that will pass
2006-09-22 13:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a selfish pig!!! Kick him out and make him pay child support!!
2006-09-22 14:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stage - no
Resent the child - no
Natural - yes
Pass - no
Sorry welcome to marraige.
2006-09-22 13:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋