i just visited my real father but i miss him an my mom don't let me go back what should i do?
2006-09-22 12:56:14 · 5 answers · asked by Servers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I realize you don't like your step father. but please don't ruin the lives of those around you becasue you don't like him. This is your mom's relationship, not yours. Speak to him respectfully, don't argue. Just remember your time at home will be brief compared to the rest of your life. No need to make life misserable.
Ask your mom nicely when can you go see your dad again......don't put her on the definsive or she will dig her heals in and not let you go. Give her every reason to trust you and let you go visit.
You actually have a choice of how happy or miserable your life will be. Times might get tough, but it will be tougher if you and the step father argue and your mom screams and so on.
Let go........that is their relationship. You are growing up and will have your own life. Don't let your dislike for your step dad ruin your personal happiness. Maybe he won't be so bad once you get to know him.
Biggest thing to remember is that you will not be in this situation forever. Make the best of it and make the best of you.
2006-09-22 13:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to like your stepfather but you need to be civil with him. If he makes your mother happy, then he is good. If your are open enough and allow yourself to get to know your stepfather better you may just find out he's a nice guy. The sooner you get-along with your stepfather, the happier you'll be. It's not going to make easier for you if you carry on this dislike with someone you have to live with everyday.
And if you think he is not a good person, then you need t talk to your mother about what you think.
2006-09-23 04:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by Erize Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down and give your stepdad a chance. I had a stepdad from the time I was 6 years old. My father died when I was 3. I never accepted my stepdad until after I had my first son, and then things changed. I now like my stepdad sometimes more than i like my mom...lol
After I gave in a got to know him, he is a real great guy. Give him a chance be nice to him and he will be nice to you.
2006-09-22 13:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he makes your mom happy you should give him a chance, but if you think he is a dog, keep an eye on him. If yu are right get rid of him.
2006-09-22 19:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r 12 yrs old or older u can choose whom u want to live with..and most kids dont like they step parents...why do u not like urs tho?
2006-09-22 13:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋