2006-09-22 12:42:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm the son!
2006-09-22 12:52:49 · update #1
DON'T OVER REACT. Sit down with him and talk to him like he's an adult. Tell him he can't get it done until he's older and ask him why he feels like that. Put him into counseling not exactly to change his mind but more so he can understand what he's going through. Be accepting!!!! While you may want to over react and tell him no way in hell you need to remember that that is only going to make him want to do it more and possibly hate you for not being supportive. He legally CAN'T get it done until he's older anyway. Put him in counseling and let him know he can talk to you about ANYTHING!!!!
2006-09-22 12:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Cutie_wit_a_booty_08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him he had to wait until he was 18, for two reasons. One is that the things you want at 11 might be things you regret later. I mean, at 11 I had planned to get a pink convertible and write Barbie across the hood in glitter!! And I thought for a year in HS that I was gay. So you do change as you grow. The other reason is physical: I am pretty sure that kind of surgery cannot be done until the body finishes growing. I know I went to school with a guy who had a BB in his head (yes, from the gun) and they couldn't do surgery to tak it out until his head finished growing, I would think a major physical change surgery would be the same.
2006-09-22 23:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your 11 year old being exposed to that caused him to say something like that? Was he joking? I think at 11 a child has no idea about their sexuality and certainly wouldn't have any idea rather or not they would like a sex change... Is your son maybe jealous of a sister or a friend that's a girl... you should sit and have a serious discussion with your son to find out what caused him to say that. Becareful not to be too judgemental and certainly don't get caught refering to your son as homosexual or something of the sort... encourage him to hang out with guy friends and enroll him in some sports... ask if he's having trouble at school maybe a bully is calling him gay or a girl or something that may have something to do with the out burst. Good luck.
2006-09-22 19:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by moonlights_rain 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is not likely his first clue that something is wrong with his sexuality. There are therapists that are trained & qualified to help him and the rest of your family. Transgender issues are not uncommom.
My son has done things like that, and worse!! He used to tell me that he wanted his penis cut off, he was 3 years old. He would tuck his penis between his legs too. There were a few reasons why I think he went thru this, he did grow out of it but I got a therpaist for us cuz I wanted him to be ok with who he is Regaurdless.
I know that its hard but my advice is to know that God made him PERFECT - even if he feels like a girl inside. LOVE HIM, Support him - he can not help this feeling. Get a therapist.
2006-09-22 20:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anne A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my future 11 year old told me that, I would tell him that we should go to counseling to make sure what feeling and going through is what he wants and how to help him go through it. Then by the time he is an adult and still feels he want one, I would support him because he is my child. I would love him as a boy or as a girl. As long as my child is happy in life, I would be there for him.
2006-09-23 03:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know why.... What exactly makes you want to go to such a drastic measure... I would get my child counseling so they can fully work through what they are thinking...
I would let my child know how much I love them and how I would accept them however they are but I would ask them to please wait until they are at least an adult to make a perminant change... Cosmetic changes could happen whenever (clothing, make-up, hair style) but no surgical non reversible changes until they are an adult and can make an adult decision to make those changes...
Above all I would make sure my child knew how much I loved him/her...
2006-09-22 21:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may know something, we don't know how to understand.
still,you must be able to find a way to teach him about God, and why He made us the way we are, it may be his life long struggle to live thru this, but i never seen it start so early. please be on his side. don't act like this can't happen, it all ready did. he is brutally honest. explain, how there are people God made to be what we are, but society has stereotyped us as gay or straight, all of us, just so that he knows. a sex change is a fanatical approach, at least for a decade, yet!!!
2006-09-22 20:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want a sex change? You should wait untill your 21 to make that choice so you know you really truely want it.
2006-09-22 20:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him decide when he is old enough, say 18 or 21....
It's better to have a daughter then nothing.
P.S. Consider it when you are older and mature enough to be responsible for your own life.... Good luck to you, i'm sure your parent will understand if you put it to them in a correct way.
2006-09-24 12:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by fairyofflamingo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be calm. He probably said it to get your attention. Pay him none. Say something like. "Oh, I like you the way you are, if you still feel that way in say 7 or 8 years, I guess it is your body."
It is probably just a phase and getting upset will only encourage the behavior.
2006-09-22 19:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋