I have gone out with this guy for 2 1/2 years. We have never gotten in any fights or arguements, he always seems so sweet to me but yesterday he broke up with me because he "doesn't know what he wants".He says he still loves me ,doesnt wanna go out with anyone else,he is always looking at me but i just dont get it what this is all about?& I cant seem to get over him. What is the best way to deal with a heartbreak and can sum1 maybe give me an idea of what he could be saying.
2006-09-22 12:14:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not sure if it has to do with him wanting someone else because he doesnt talk to any girls when i see him.he is ussually sitting with his male friends.He told everyone that he loves me a lot but he just doesnt know what he wants right now....& i dont get that.
2006-09-22 12:26:21 · update #1
Men can be very confusing sumtimes! he might just need sum time 2 himself or maybe he is just saying that so you don't get your feelings hurt ( but it seems you have) just talk 2 him even thought it might be uncomfortable but just see what he means by what he is saying!
Good Luck
try not 2 get 2 heart broken over this! it will all turn out ok!:)
2006-09-22 12:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by dana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O-MY. I DEFINITELY CAN (give you some insight)! I KNOW THE FEELING- MY GUY (I FEEL) IS WANTING TO DO THE SAME THING.
He wont though. He's scared or doesn't want to be alone.
I know the feeling cause I have been where he is before.
There is a simple way to handle this situation-
...don't allow his not knowing what he wants to hinder your abilities in any way.
-continue to live your life striving to make each day better than the last.
-give him ample space and time to work his feeling of un-certainty out. when he is sure of what it is that he wants he will then do as he wishes
-you can be sure he is wishing you were there, wanting to see someone else (seeing some one else) or glad he is alone. The thoughts and things he is saying are none of your concern.
-just try to be active, make new friends and enjoy your life to its fullest!!
2006-09-22 13:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same crap done to me. Only thing that's gonna help you is time and you need to stay away from him. I would be lying if I told you its not gonna hurt, but you will be better off. This dude knows exactly why he doesn't want to be with you, but he is playing the 'nice guy'. I would start moving on and try to grow from the experience. Everybody gets their heart broken, and unfortunately it looks like you're next in line. Good luck and there are plenty of guys out there who like a chance to be with you.
2006-09-22 12:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by I like Chinese food 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person needs to know who he or she is before they can relate closely to another individual. If he is having identity problems or some sort of crisis in finding himself, it stands to reason that he just needs some space. Just let him work out the problem, and get to know himself a little bit better. In time, if it's meant to be for you two to be together, then it will happen again, and this time it will be for good. He will know what he wants, and you will have a happier person to date and have a relationship with.
2006-09-22 12:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u guys are in high school...he might need to concentrate on studies or what not in order to prep for college. maybe u 2 were distracting e/o. then on the other hand, he may have another interest, and didn't feel it was right to bring it up to your attention. give him some space, still be friends with him, and on talking terms. he may turn around when he knows what he wants....sometimes men need space. read men are from mars women are from venus. it give many many answers to q's that we women have. remember...no man is worth your tears...and those who are, never make u cry. hang out with your friends...get into new hobbies...making jewelry, art, crafts, working with kids, dancing...whatever interests you in order to keep your interests peaked in other things....and meet new ppl. =)
2006-09-22 12:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by Snki55ed Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just broke up with him yesterday. Give it some time honey.. I mean really.
Stay busy, hand with friends, find a new hobby.
Don't stay at home and think about him all day and night.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-09-22 12:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be driving you crazy. I would distance ur-self from him. Maybe he will realize just how much he loves you. it will drive him crazy not being able to see you. Just keep ur-self busy. Time will tell what happens. Sometimes the people that love us the most hurt...us the most! Keep faith...take things day by day...and see what happens!
2006-09-22 12:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he gave you his answers he know he ain't no good and that you are a sweet person so in order not to hurt you he did the right thing by letting you go don't worry what wont kill you will make you stronger for the next one in time you will get over him
2006-09-22 12:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke up with you because he doesn't know what he wants!?!? Talk to him about it. Are you sure that is the real reason for the break up?
2006-09-22 12:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Standard line....it's not easy to accept, but move on. Something else is there and you will never know the answer.
2006-09-22 12:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by Vanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋