Ok, there's this guy that I like, but he just confessed his love to one of my friend this summer but she dumped him and although they still are friends, they don't speak so often now. And now he always hangs out with me, sometimes just the two of us. Could he possibly gotten over the other girl or just using me as a rebound?
And the dilemma is that i can't ask him straight forward if he still likes this girl or not because she is my best friend and she secretly told me about his confession, so if i bring up that issue, i could possibly destroy my friendship as well.
2006-09-22 12:09:17 · 8 answers · asked by minoru 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to your friend first. It sounds like they didn't even date and that she wasn't interested in him but it probably best to ask her any way. If she is OK with it then your next step is to See if he likes her. Sometime your hanging out bring up ex's of both of yours. After you have talked for awhile then say hay what was the deal with you and ( your friend's name) it seemed that you guys had something going on this summer but then there was nothing. Get him talk about it then ask him the questios you need. If you get the feeling that he is over her then make your move. Wait until he goes home that night then call him and ask him if he wants to go do something tomorrow. Since you waited until he went home if says something like I just think of you as a freind you can say yeah me too duh. If he likes you as more then a freind then you should be abel to tell by his reaction.
2006-09-22 12:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she is your friend and has been probably longer than he has you should not get involved with him personally, but just be his friend also who knows somewhere down the road things may change to you and your best friends benefit and then it won"t matter to her that you go out with this guy.
2006-09-22 19:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the word REBOUND written all over, hun. Plus, you're not supposed to date your best friends' ex's. That's just wrong!! So my advice is get over him and MOVE ON!
2006-09-22 19:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by latgal73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be happy to be his friend and wait and see what happens. If and when he feels ready he will make a move and if he doesnt well you are still friends. Just be sure to pick up on any signals.
2006-09-22 19:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by auburn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k...so guys have this rule where they techinically aren't allowed or supposed to date a chick that their best bud went out with. it's just how it is. develop that rule. u dont' want him, girlie...especially if you're still friends with your girl friend. she's wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy more important...and will still be your friend even when this guy's moved on.
i think he might be talking to you to still stay in the loop with her. get another love interest. plenty of fish out there.
2006-09-22 19:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Snki55ed Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry honey! im a man and ill tell you straight up you are a rebound. always trust your instings besides your worth more than that. ive been there. move on! his not worth your time. you need someone who cares about you not a user. email me tell me how it goes. ton_mm@yahoo.com
2006-09-22 19:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by intosoreal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating a guy is not worth you losing a friend. find someone else.
2006-09-22 19:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy Wine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't want to date your friend left over if she is really your friend..
2006-09-22 19:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋