that my bf ((fiancee)) is a great guy...? me and my fiancee have been together for 4 yrs and my daddy HATES HIM...! hes a great guy...respectful,good to me.. ect. and I have no idea why he hates him... im his only child so
2006-09-22 12:05:09 · 12 answers · asked by NC_baby_gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sit your father down alone and tell him that you love you bf and that he makes you happy. Tell him that is is important to you that they are least try to get along. Tell him you understand that your bf is not his fave person, but stress that both of them are important to you and that this current situation is upsetting.
DON'T go on about how marvellous your bf is, no doubt he has heard it all before and was unmoved then, he will still be unmoved now. Tell him of your deep feelings for your bf and ask if you can arrange a relaxed meeting somewhere of your fathers choosing.
Let your father know that he is still loved, just as much as before no matter what happens, and that you are not making a choice between them.
I think that he is properly afraid of loosing you to another man and that you will forget about your daddy, assure him that this is not so.
Ask him to give your bf a fair chance, after all, he would take an interest in anything else that was this important to you (if he already gave him a fair chance in the past and it was a disaster, ask him for a clean slate and to try again)
If all else fails and he he is unmoved in his hatred for him, let him know that it is NOT a choice, him or your bf, let him know that you can love both.
My advice to you if this situation should arise, is follow your heart, your husband is the only member of your family that you ever get to choose. If you found the right one, hang on to him no matter what anyone says.
Let him know that you would love to have his blessing, but don't need it. (do this delicately)
Good luck!
2006-09-22 12:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by Amoeba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r father doesn't like him becasue he doesn't seem to respect your dad or you. Let me ask you a question? How old are yo ufirst if you are under 25 than that could be one reason. Two: does he know your BF is your fiancee? If yes did he ask your father first for his "blessing" or is premission? Porbably not. Number three: He looks like a flake and not a man in your fathers eyes becasue if he was serious about being totally commited to you why did he wait so long. You BF look like he's jest trying to get sex out of you until he's old enough that he gets tired of you. You have to understand your father was a man to before he got married just ask him. your his little girl and he doesn' want you to get your heart broken by some half a s s flake that doesn't respect him more or less you for that matter. There's really nothing you can do it has to be you BF's job to get his punk a s s working on earning your dads respect.
2006-09-22 12:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably just that your dad is scared to let you go, he thinks you will forget about him once your married, but it could possibly be that maybe your dad knows something you don't, perhaps he is rude to your dad when your not around, but your dad doesnt say anything because ur fiancee treats you good, and thats the most important thing
2006-09-22 12:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Chosen One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked your dad why he hates him? It could be that daddy is just afraid of losing his only child. And it may be more than that. It may be that your dad sees something in your fiancee that you cannot or will not see. But if you have not asked, you may never know (you may never know anyway, but it is worth a shot, in my opinion).
2006-09-22 12:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by James A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your dad spend time with the both of you. Do something your dad enjoys like a baseball game, or play tennis together, or something that you can all interact in together. Even if it's not something either of you like doing like golf or whatever. Or take your dad out to dinner or your mom and dad. Whatever works. Make your dad feel comfortable around him. Let your dad see you with your guy. Best luck!
2006-09-22 12:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u can let them get together n hang out for a day and see what happens then if that doesn't work try talking to your dad ask your dad why he hates your fiance. Your dad probably hates him cause he's marrying his little girl.
2006-09-22 12:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by pretty_in_pink576 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how old u r and if u ever even tried to let ur dad express his thoughts hav a great dinner wit ur dad and discuss about ur engagment and see how it turns out if he still says no then ask him why he hates him so much dont interupt him
2006-09-22 12:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by h_townjessica13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked your dad what he thinks about the guy? He MAY have valid reasoning and it might be beneficial for both of you to talk about it.
2006-09-22 12:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new fiancee
2006-09-22 12:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by bcarl6 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
arrange a meeting for the three of you and let your dad get to know him
2006-09-22 12:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by pureessence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋