Should I tell my daugther who her father is?

Question

He father left before she was born. Does he really have a right even if he left us.

Answer 1

Tell her. He might enventually come back and it will be worse for her to find out when he does. You might think shes not ready to hear it but if he ever comes back and you havent told her it will be harder on her especially if she is a teen. && even if he never comes back it would be a good idea for you to tell her. That way she can make a choice wether she thinks he did good or not. and she wont grow up with that whole in her heart of not knowing who her father is and/or why hes not there with her. if she is younger than 11 then wait until she turns atleast 13. but dont put it off to long. If you do she might rebel against you
Hope this helps! =)

BTW i am a 15 year old girl. and if i didnt know who my father was I would want my mom to tell me who he is. and why he left us
Best of wishes

Answer 2

I can not answer this but I can share my experience. My son is 18.now.. through the yrs. he would ask who his dad was.. He would get angry because I didn't tell him, although I thought it was in his best interest not to tell him I think I should have along time ago. I did tell him recently because of guilt feelings I had. his reaction now is that he could care less. so I am still confused on what would have been right or wrong. Today I feel like everyone should know who their dad is weather the dad is good or bad. He still exist and he did help create this child.

Answer 3

if he left before she was born and he knew that he was going to be a father then no i mean you can your daughter who he is but far as him coming to see her no because he was not in the beginning when it was I'm sure very hard for you he don't need to be there now what will be the reason you done his part and then some so bump that

Answer 4

Depending on how old your daughter is. She does need to know, but start the conversation slowly. Don't break the news to her on her (?) birthday. Does she have a stepfather? She will ask questions and be honest with her, but give only the information she is requesting at the time. You want this to be easy on her and she will probably at some time want to see him. The worst thing you could do is deny her that right. You can put restrictions on visits but work with your daughter when that time comes and she will never be angry with you. Take Care and God Bless.

Answer 5

We should al know our Father! He is in Heaven! I am sure you know~ just because you have provided sperm for a baby to be born~ does not mean you are a FATHER! As you said he left! I am so very sorry for you and her! I think only you can decide this! Do you want him in your life now? What kind of man is he? I will pray for you and her! BEST WISHES! bye now :)

Answer 6

Hi My mother led me to believe that the man I had called dad all my life was my biological dad, but at 14 she decided to tell me that he was not! I was devastated, it's difficult to know from your ? whether her father is back and has requested to see her, if that's the case, it depends on your current situation to be honest if she has been calling someonelse dad then its going to be extremely difficult, her age is very important also, being told as I was at 14 a teenager totally messed me up, if I had had a choice I would rather not have been told until I was much older, and in some ways I wish I had never been told!

Answer 7

Ask her if she wants to know who her father is. If she says yes tell her. Your daugther has the right to know.

Answer 8

he left you two, so far he has just been the sperm donor that helped you with a wonderful gift. enjoy your daughter and your life with her. If the sperm donor really wants involvement he will take you into court.
You should allow your daughter the information she wants when she is old enough to understand these things. Let her know who her father is and who his family is but also let her know it was that side of the family that chose not to be a part of your lives

Answer 9

Yes tell her...Plus it isn't about his right ...It's about your daughters right seeing her father..I had the same problem but mine was a boy...I was so mad I thought I would punish him and never let him see his son...Until one day my 5 year old son looked at me with his big brown eyes and said ..I wish I had a daddy.Thats when I realized I was wrong and contacted his father...All children have the right to know both parents..If you don't trust him then stay with her when she meets with him..Thats what I did. Give her the choice...She deserves it...Good luck in whatever u choose.

Answer 10

I was adopted by my daddy. I didn't know it until I was 15 years old. My mother didn't tell me who my father was, or that I even had another father. When she did, she told me that she did it out of love. She wanted me to find out who my father was when I was old enough to handle it. What she didn't know was that when I did find out, I had a HUGE identity crisis. You see, I was physically part of that man. I always wondered when I was little why I wasn't like mom in personality, and wasn't quite like dad either like the other kids in my family. When I was told that I was adopted, then I didn't know who I was any more. I needed to know who my father was in order to know who I was. Later on, I did meet and had a relationship with him for a short time. He wasn't a very nice person, but I did learn a lot about myself just from meeting and knowing him. On one hand, I believe my mother was right. She never told me anything bad about my father because that would have prejudiced me against him, and eventually, I would have taken that out on my mother. But when I learned who he was, I got to know him for myself, and on my own terms. It helped. However, I would have been able to avoid that identity crisis had I known from the beginning who my father was. I advise you to tell your child.