I am so gagging 4 a shagging I could weep after being single mum for yrs, yet am told repeatedly that while sexy, I am too nice to be used. How the heck can i get laid by a decent guy who's intelligent and kind and can undersatnd mutual needs. ps This isn't a joke. And yes I can look after myself girls, but need that something more? Any others with this problem? How can i seem less nice? Cos I'll be dead before i get laid at this rate! There, I've gone public!
2006-09-22 11:48:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ignore sad little miserable's answer plse everyone. It's not that!
2006-09-22 11:52:45 · update #1
Your question is not so unusual! Many single parents feel the same. It is a very complex issue and only you can really answer your question. There are many issues that you are concerning you, I have listed some of them:-
How will your child or children feel when they find out?
What will your friends and family think?
Who will look after your kids when you go out and what will they think of you if you stay out all night?
What emotional baggage will this new person bring to your family?
Will you have enough confidence to take your clothes off and enjoy a night of passion?
Are your expectations of a relationship too high, are you measuring prospective partners against your longest relationship partner?
The simple answer here is that you will meet someone - everyone does. You have to understand what you want and what you are prepared to share / show with a prospective new partner.
You cannot make an omelet without breaking eggs - so go and make mistakes - enjoy your errors and let yourself go. You must make the effort to explore life and not sit in your comfortable world of celibacy.
2006-09-22 12:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Batcam777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your female friends, especially divorcees or widows if there is a not so local meeting place where singles ( for whatever reason ) get together.
I don't mean a "singles club or bar" etc.
For example, here in South Wales there is a well known establishment which everyone knows as "Beaverstocks"
I won't name the real name here, but it's very similar to the name given :-)
Both men and women go there for one reason only, and that is to find no strings attached sex. Not on the premises though... :-)
There must be a similar establishment not too far from you even if you live out "in the sticks" as a damn good shag is a human need.
Now I wonder if my wife is up for it tonight, or will it be Beaverstocks.... she's not been very forthcoming lately...!
2006-09-22 12:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god I cant believe miserable's reply, what an @rse!!
You are definitely not alone on this one!! Why don't you try going to a different town/city for a night or weekend with your friends where no guys will know you. You can act totally different to your normal nice routine, be whoever you want to be!! Go crazy, have a great weekend and more importantly - get shagged!!!
2006-09-22 11:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyone you are interested in ? If so and you think there is even a small chance that this person would possibly feed your need then just be forward and tell the person you are interested and want him....Let him know your intentions upfront.. I did this and was so surprised when he accepted the invitation.. It was definately worth asking for..We were very adult about the whole thing. Neither of us wanted a relationship but we both had mutual needs.
2006-09-22 12:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lavender 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being rather an older chap (57) I like the way you have broached the subject but it is not the internet you have to cry out to but by getting the guy you want and saying to them hey im here im me i want you i know what i am doing love me. I wish I was young to get some of the action. Best of luck.
2006-09-22 12:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by savage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what before you think of getting laid, you have to have a game plan, you don't go out have a drink in a bar, meet a guy and then get laid. i am guy and from my point of view jumping immediately in bed with me is a bit like rushing things to happen, give me a bit to hang on and make me crave for more, sort of like build the excitement, if you meet someone flirt with him,but not give in as yet, give it a few dates if you like, intimacy comes naturally afterwards
2006-09-22 12:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by s270wizard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are perhaps looking for men in the wrong places, and should go to places where being nice is less of an option, such as night-clubs.
2006-09-22 12:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you will have to be more aggressive. Ask a guy out that you are interested in and if things work out let him know what you are interested in. I am sure you will be able to find someone to help you out. By the way if your name is Yvonne, it is a great name.
2006-09-22 11:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok then ! i'm known 4 my technique and am quite partial to pulling ladies around by the hair before the main event is this wot ur after?
2006-09-22 14:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could do the obvious thing and offer you my services but I am far to much of a gentleman for that sort of skulduggery...... Oh sod it how about it you and me no strings attached...
2006-09-22 11:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋