How can I forge a new relationship with another human being where at the present time I have no relationships?

Question

I have my parents, but other than the television, and the internet, I am in need. What path can I find to happy living wherein human relationships are immaterial? Barring that, what steps can I take to reach out to people and to form close relationships? How important of a step is this to take to have a fulfilling life? Sure, it hurts now and then, and it gets lonely, but I fail to see how to break out of my socially-challenged rut and to get myself some good people to support me. It feels like I have been living in a state of perpetual confusion all these many years. How important is a healthy sex life to the condition of the modern man? What stigma is attached to a life of solitude? It seems it may be well and good to circumvent this terrible narrow way of living, but what can I do about it? What will elevate me above the routine life of a hermit and to put me in contact with those who might respect or love me? What divine meaning and interpretation can I assign to my life?

Answer 1

It's difficult to form meaningful human relationships when you're intelligent. If you're satisfied with a life of solitude, then I see no problem with it. However, you've expressed a desire for more human contact and better relationships. In order to form relationships, you must first meet people. Accumulate knowledge about people's likes and dislikes, and appeal to their likes. As for assigning a divine meaning to your life, you're fooling yourself. There is no meaning or point to anything that is or that ever was. You're obviously an intelligent individual, which is probably why you find it difficult to be a part of the ignorant society that surrounds you.

Answer 2

I'll start with forging new relationships and their importance to a well balanced life. Yes, its important to establish relationships with others. While a little alone time can be soothing, a constant diet of it can make us feel alienated, detached. The psyche needs interaction and stimulation on a level that goes beyond the familial unit or internet relationships. Humans need to be touched and nurtured to develope an emotional and physiologically balanced existance. Stimulation and interaction have been shown to actually encourage or deter (if withheld) brain growth as shown in various studies throughout academia. Its not necessary to become a party animal or change your basic personality in order to connect with others. Concentrate on your interests and join groups that pursue those same interests. Commonality is a great basis to establish a relationship. Be friendly. Smile. To have a friend you must first be a friend. Show interest in others. Ask questions about their lives. People love to talk about themselves and share what they know. As to a healthy sex life, male or female, its very important. Its a natural part of life and should be embraced as healthy and beneficial (just keep it safe). However, make sure you're up to the responsibility of an intimate relationship. Making love is more than physical union and has demands beyond the physical that will ask more of you than you'd think initially. As to the meaning and interpretation of your life don't think so much about what you might need but what others need and how to be of service to your fellow man. There's a great deal of satisfaction and personal enrichment to be found in service that meets the needs of others. I know you'll find your way. We all do you know.

Answer 3

God made you a vibrant person full of many talents. I can tell by your questions.What do you like to do? Art, machines, sports, video games, helping others? There are many organizations who take volunteers for a couple hours a day or even a week like hospitals, charity organizations or soup kitchens.Belonging to a church group & getting involved in the many community projects will open doors of interaction with people of all ages.To volunteer or join is free & involvement is free, therefore not putting a burden of cost on anyone. Being yourself is the best way to making friends & developing relationships. There will always be up & downs because you can't please everyone, but if you set out to face life one day at a time, to the best of your ability, you will find yourself with fulfilling friendships. It doesn't matter what people think of you, it matters what you & God think of yourself. You cannot live life by other people's perception of what you should do or be(as long as you're not out to break the law). Man was not designed to live from one sex partner to another. That emotional roller coaster can drive you to destruction. God created sexual partnership between one man & one woman in marriage to unite them body & soul. A communion & testimony of God's love. When you find the right person, you will know. To have sex before marriage is like playing Russian roulette with a revolver these days. The chance of getting aids is too high. If you volunteer somewhere or join a church group, you will fulfill your need to meet & interact with others. As you give your life to God, he will lead you on adventures of life which will show you exactly where you are meant to be & introduce you to people who are on an adventure of their own.

Answer 4

As a loner myself, I can strongly relate. I think this lifestyle is part habit and part choice. I don't know all of your feelings about your situation. But for my part, there is a fear of regret in saying the wrong things to people, or of rejection. And taking an interest in a person only to be disappointed that it is not mutual. I always used to be attracted to girls who already had boyfriends. I finally lost interest in direct involvement and became voyeuristic. A missed voyeuristic moment is far less painful than pining after a girl who is unavailable. If no one is bugging you about being socially detached, and as long as you can otherwise function in the rest of your life without running afoul of the law, I don't see much of problem. Let's just be happy with the extra peace and quiet that we have compared to others.

Answer 5

Many times a person with no friends has a psychological issue such as being schizoid or having Asperger's syndrome. You might check out these two conditions and see if one of them sounds like you. If so you want to seek therapy with someone who specializes in treating either of these two disorders. Check with your local university and ask who teaches the course on these disorders and then get a reference. People with these disorders tend to be male and in a profession such as engineering or computing.

Answer 6

Sounds like you are WWAAAAY overthinking this whole thing. ALso sounds like you can probably answer all the questions you asked the best, after all, your living a life of solutide, tell me: what kind to stigma it attached to it.
Im sure you must go to school. Make freinds, and dont worry so much about the greater meaning of it all.

Answer 7

The simple answer is, go where people are (health clubs, malls, night clubs, etc.) If you work, try asking one of your co- workers to hang out, or chat on the job. Truth is, humans are tribal, they need human interaction. In order not to be bored, and therefore alone, go out and do things you like; people will want to be around you and want to be your friend. Sex is the second strongest drive second to survival, so it is something instinct tells you to do.

Answer 8

You need a wife! There's this guy at our church who always comes to our house without warning just because he's lonely. He had a girlfriends, but let her slip away. Don't let that happen to you!!! If you haven't forged a romanitic relationship yet, then it's time you have. Good luck with the ladies!

Answer 9

maybe your thinking to much and too deep i don't like to be so blunt but i think your a bit self obsessed I'm not saying this to be cruel (you can say something nasty about my spelling) but if you try not to think about problems all the tI'me it will help. the trick is just think as far as the next hour and get through the day like that im sure when you can relax a bit you will find someone nice

Answer 10

Take a class in something you enjoy, you'll find people that have similar interests.