Of course I know that we can do what we want, but normally, does the groom go to the shower? Or is it normally just the bride? And why is it that the groom wouldn't be invited? Thank you.
2006-09-22 11:16:51 · 21 answers · asked by Rachael 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The groom shouldn't be invited to these lame *ss party. We prefer to go to strip joints instead. Any hot bride-maids can come along if they want, and maybe even some hot MILFs. The only reason women want us there is to carry all the cr*p out to the car.
Who's got next round?
2006-09-22 16:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by adepame 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Traditionally, showers were to help the bride-to-be to set up housekeeping, with most of the things she will need (by etiquette, showers are the ONLY type of party that requires that all people who choose to attend need to bring a physical gift-- not gift certificates or money-- for the guest of honor). Stereotypically, men were traditionally not part of household duties and it was not his sphere of interest to put the household things together-- that's "women's work" as they would traditionally say...
Showers are increasingly a ridiculous custom these days, in our culture, now that the couple has so often ALREADY managed their own household (together or separately). Also, the two families often have so much stuff they can hand-me-down to the newlyweds that there is little chance that the couple is at risk of starting out with nothing. (Showers are really designed for young women starting out with close to nothing-- young brides who would not be able to get their married household put together without help from others.)
So these days showers really are an extraneous tradition. Some would call them a gift-grab. Many guests find them boring and honestly dread attending (they would never tell the bride this to her face of course).
Today some people DO invite the groom, and male guests, to the shower. That's called a "couple's shower" or a "Jack and Jill shower". At those, the gifts should not just be girly things, they should be things that both the bride and groom would use.
2006-09-23 04:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's perfectly acceptable for the groom to make an appearance at the bridal shower, if he wants to. I've been to showers where the groom showed up and hung out for a little while. I thought it was kind of nice that he showed interest in his bride's shower like that.
2006-09-22 22:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by Big Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It used to be just the bride - hence, the bridal shower - but today more and more of the groom's are going too - after all, it is the wedding of two people and I think it's nice that men want to be part of all the events leading up to the big day.
2006-09-22 21:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bridal shower is traditionally the time that female relatives and friends "shower" the bride with the things she needs to run a house. That's why the gifts should be practical everyday things.
These days and times people do what they want, but most men don't want to be around that much estrogen in one room.
2006-09-22 23:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally it's for the bride to "shower" her with gifts. Not sure that any groom would be comfortable in a room of cackling hens. Some couples have co-ed showers where couples attend as guests for the bride and goom.
2006-09-22 18:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by pattysez 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bridal showers are for women - c/mon, leave us something just for us gals. Grooms can do their own thing. It would be nice for the guy to show up at some point near the end so everyone can say Hi and he can help thank people for the gifts.
2006-09-23 07:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally it is supposed to be for the Bride. But it really depends on how traditonal the person is. I went to my cousin's Wedding Shower and her husband actaully showed up for it. So, as you can see, it doesn't have to be just the bride. It can also be the groom.
2006-09-22 18:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by poppyjlp1485 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Supposedly, he's not supposed to be there.
But of all the showers I've gone to, the groom has been there for at least the present opening if not for the whole thing. He should be there if you're inviting his family members, especially if you don't know them so well.
2006-09-22 21:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the bridal shower and you are the bride, not the groom shower...he understands
2006-09-22 23:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋