when i send out wedding invitations, would it be wrong to include where we are registered? not having a bridal shower or anything like that. we dont want it...
2006-09-22 10:35:33 · 35 answers · asked by elliemae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No way!!! When I got married 3 yrs. ago we put 3 different departments stores where we registered at. When you put where you registered at it's helping you guest choose what you want cause you putting everything you like. Dont feel bad that's whole purpose. congrats and you weddding and good luck to you both.
2006-09-22 10:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 7⤋
Absolutely this is inapropriate! You should not send this kind of list out with your wedding invitations. Why are you not having a bridal shower so you can send the list with those invitations? If people want to get you a gift for your wedding they will call you to find out where you are registered. If you send the list with the invitations you are anticipating a gift whether or not they come to the wedding or not. Only wedding guests should buy you a gift. However, if you have a shower, then you should get a gift from everyone you invite regardless if they attend or not. Get an ediquette book and check for yourself.
2006-09-22 16:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by ru.barbie2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely inappropriate to include where you're registered on any printed document. If you were having a bridal shower it would be inappropriate to list where you're registered on that invitation, too.
Think about it this way...At Christmas time, when you send out Christmas cards, do you include a line at the bottom that says, "P.S. I have a gift registry at Bed Bath & Beyond"? The same concept applies to your wedding...Those who care enough to want to buy you a gift will inquire.
If you have doubts, check with Miss Manners.
You're not having the wedding to collect gifts. You're having the wedding to celebrate the beginning of your life together. Rejoice that all of your loved ones will come, and if they bring gifts, that will be a secondary bonus.
Oh, my gosh, and I must say that I'm embarrassed by so many answers here indicating that it would be even remotely okay. Really.
Really, it's not okay.
2006-09-22 11:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT appropriate in any fashion to include your registry cards in your wedding invitations. By doing so, you are giving your guests the idea that your wedding is really just a gift grab. This is fast becoming the biggest wedding etiquette faux pas.
The appropriateness of this is a myth which is being perpetuated by the wedding industry and stores. By them giving the brides these cards, the bride automatically assumes that etiquette has changed, when, in fact, it has not.
If your guest WANT to get you a gift, they will contact some one in the family or wedding party and ask what you need, at which time it is more than appropriate for the family/wedding party member to advise the caller where you are registered.
2006-09-22 11:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Plain_Common_Sense 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT INCLUDE YOUR REGISTRY INFO!
It is rude. It is as if you are expecting gifts. And even though you are, you should not be that forward with it.
People have been to weddings throughout the ages. They know who to ask for registry info.... the bride, the groom, the bride"s mom, the groom"s mom, or the MOH.
You shouldn"t have refused a bridal shower........ the person throwing it can include registry info in that invite.
2006-09-22 17:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes its really rude. Gifts for the bridal couple are optional, and you including it says to the friends and family that a gift is more important to you than them sharing in the joy of your matrimony.
If they want to give you a gift, they will contact your mother and ask her if you are registered and or what you need.
If you do that, it shows you have no etiquette and are low class
2006-09-22 11:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by dakotanmisty 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT polite to publicize one's own registry. Do not announce it in invitations, nor by email or website, nor by announcing it aloud. You need to WAIT TO BE ASKED and then after that it spreads by word of mouth. You can also tell your parents and maid of honor, since people will ask them where you are registered as well.
You wait to be asked, then you may say, "Oh well we registered for a few things at gaiam.com, but I'm sure whatever you give us will be lovely."
People also usually know that many mainstream-type registries are all centrally linked and they can look you up on weddingchannel.com and find most of your registries.
2006-09-22 18:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's about as classy as asking for money in the invite.
A wedding invitation is supposed to be about wanting that person/s to spend your special day with you NOT the latest trend asking for money/present grab fest.
So don't dictate what all your guests should give you, be grateful and appreciative for whatever you receive. Mention the registry only to those that ask.
2006-09-22 13:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by xanadu88 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong. It may be in slightly poor taste for some guests. If you can imagine anyone that might not want to be told to buy you a gift than you can simply not include it. Traditionally it is left for the person to ask where you are registered, but this is kind of going the way of a lot of things out of style. Do what you feel is best. It isn't wrong, but may not be right for all of your guests.
2006-09-22 15:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by threedaysoff 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I personally don't care for it because that way you're saying that you expect me to go to the shops you're registered at and get what you want. It seems so tacky. I also understand though that lots of couples do this and it's helpful to know what you need. I think you could go either way and not be in trouble. It's your wedding, do what you feel is right. I don't think anyone will say anything.
2006-09-22 10:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by b's wife 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
According to many, it is inappropriate to include registry information in the wedding invitations. Try spreading it word of mouth instead. Let some relatives and friends know and have them spread it.
2006-09-22 13:53:37 · answer #11 · answered by Samantha S 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋