Lets say your daughter is 24, and a recent college graduate. She has yet to find or settle into a career, but she knows what she wants her career to be. She'd like to one day get her Masters, but want's to take a break first. If she came to you, and told you that she was pregnant, would you be upset because she is unmarried, just getting started in life, and doesn't have a career yet? Or, would you be more accepting because at least she has a degree, and is 24 and not 14? How would you feel? What would be the best way for you for your daughter to tell you about this pregnancy? Would you be upset if, out of fear, she told you later rather than sooner?
2006-09-22 10:25:46 · 15 answers · asked by LadyBug 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Ultumatly the parents should be supportive or their daughters decision. Dhe is a grown woman, if she wants to stop school and start a family then that is her choice. My father told me that the who point of life is to be happy. If their daughter is happy with a child then let the poor woman be happy. you can go to school still and be happy but it might be with the help of family or friends to watch the child. Daycare during the day. Just because their daughter is going to have a baby doesnt mean that her dreams of a big career are over, its just not that big of a priorety as it used to be. DO what makes you happy but be logical about it and how will it affect your future. Also I learned that its better to be in no mairrage than a crappy mairrage! I am soon to be a single mom and so far with out that dad around I enjoy life so much more and it isnt that hard expecially with friends and family.
I was afraid to tell my mom the most about my pregnancy so I wrote her a letter on her pillow that way she could think about it that evening and all the next day. She was disapointed at first but she told me that no matter what a baby is a blessing, a life changeing blessing but a blessing all the same. Once that baby is born the girls parents will be giddy with glee on seeing their grandchild and they will forget their worries or dissapointmetns
2006-09-22 10:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by fleur_loser 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I think that I would be a little disappointed at first. I am old fashioned in the sense that I would have like to see her married first. But, at 24, she is an adult and whatever she does is her decision. I would support her and help her out as much as possible. I know that she would be in a better position in life with a degree and that eventually she would find a career befitting her education.
2006-09-22 11:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my point of view pregnancy before marriage is wrong, but if it were to happen, what is left to do but to take care of things.Supporting her, with her decisions,her career doesn't really matter,as long as she knows how to make do.Advise her to stay in relationship with the father(if hes a nice guy).And someday it won't matter, cuz a child is worth more then a career.A child brings more happiness then money will ever bring.
2006-09-22 10:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by wallsuds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well no matter what age my child comes to me with a pregnancy, she will get an honest heartfelt discussion from me. If she is unmarried, I will discuss her options with her - keep it, give it up for adoption, or have an abortion. If she is married and this is what she and her husband want, I will be happy and support her. If she is married and doesn't want to have it, I will support her choice. (Because she is my child and her wishes are more important to me than the wishes of my son in law) No matter the situation, I would support what ever decision my daughter would make.
2006-09-22 10:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by Just me.... 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be disappointed because she went through all the classes and courses . graduated then messed up . So the chances of her finishing her Masters is slim because she is unmarried and will need more assistance with the baby and knowing she is not yet finished with her Masters.
2006-09-22 10:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them sooner than later. They will be upset at first, just b/c of the stigma that an unwed mother carries. I got pregnant with my first b/f i was married. Everything turned out fine. My mom was upset at first, but got over it very quickly. Please, remember not to let anyone ruin this time for you. This is a special time for you and your unborn baby. Congrats and good luck!
2006-09-22 10:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
24 years old, like you just said she is starting to explore the world and weather you or her want it to or not, chit's gonna happen. The best thing you can do for yourself, your Daughter, and your Grandson/Granddaughter is accept it. The more you work with her and help her out, the better it will be in the long run.
2006-09-22 10:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by kracker3977 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every parent is going to be different. At 24 I would say that she should tell her parents but be prepared for any answer. She's old enough to take care of herself should they decide not to support her.
I'm not a parent but I have a lot of friends who are unwed mothers and each of their parents did/said something different. This girl knows her parents better than any of us do!
2006-09-22 10:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by brainy_ostrich 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would emotionally support her either. It sounds like shes got a good head on her shoulders to make the decisions that works for her. The whole marriage thing isnt a big thing to me. I would worry more about her finshing her schooling and being able to support herself and the child.
2006-09-22 10:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be disappointed that she complicated her life at this point but would get over it and look forward to my grandchild's arrival.
What about the father of the child? Big concern here.
Master's Degree might be out the window as she would have to work to support herself and her child
2006-09-22 10:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by mjdp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋