I have been single for awhile and have discovered that some of the men i have dated are scared of me cuz i stand on my own 2 feet and happy to do it-they seem intimated by it.
2006-09-22 10:21:52 · 15 answers · asked by naetiger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mostly because they don't feel that they can compete. Guys like to compete and win. It's stupid of them, but it's true. Also, a lot of guys think that the only way to keep a woman from finding another guy is for the woman to become dependant on them. I still have trouble grasping how women ever allowed that to happen.
Today I watched a show where they pointed out that when two people are getting married, you are supposed to offer congradulations to the groom and best wishes to the bride. It's as if the guy caught something and everyone is patting him on the back for it, while the woman got caught and now everyone is telling her they hope that he doesn't treat her badly now that she's his. I mean what the fook?
We have finally (thank god) come to a time when a man is the optional extra for a woman. So choose one you like. And then I will congradulate you on making a fine choice. You have a life of your own that is wonderful and makes you happy. If you ever decide to be on a man, make sure it's one who appreciates what a wonderful woman you are.
Good luck.
2006-09-22 11:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We don't have a problem accepting women who can stand on their own two feet. We just don't want to hear you talk about it all the time. You should be able to support yourself. Every guy out there knows from the the time he is a child that he will have to work for a living. So we really don't want to hear you going on and on about how you support yourself. It's really no big deal, men do it every day.
2006-09-22 10:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jason S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, not saying you, women like that put off a vibe that makes men feel unneeded and unwanted. Male psychology is basic: we see ourselves as the providers. My wife makes more money than me, but she always finds ways to make me believe I am the one providing.
Basically you answered your own question. Why do men have trouble accepting women who can stand on their own 2 feet? They're intimidated by it.
2006-09-22 10:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kinzel99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
goodness. properly no longer confident if you're severe with the failings those women have achieved to you, if so I even ought to assert that’s truly unhappy. i'm 26 and ought to assert i'm solid searching female, yet i ought to in no way deal with a guy I didn’t discover appropriate the way you're describing if he changed into being polite sufficient to assist me with a door, figuring out on some thing up if i changed into suffering, etc. gents are uncommon those days as far as being polite and assisting out a lady so in spite of ways a guy seems I get exhilaration from the sentiment. Now, allure is important at the same time as it is composed of desirous to this aspect and be with a guy, i'm no longer going to lie about that and that works both for adult males and female. And it’s a shown undeniable reality that solid searching women are more advantageous useful interior the workplace it truly is often ruled by making use of adult males. existence is what that's, even with the indisputable fact that that's inaccurate to be rude to anybody attempting to be efficient to you regardless of their seems.
2016-11-23 15:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Historically women have needed/wanted (been raised) to be taken care of by men...the more independent we become, the more confused they become about who we are and what we want...
Don't worry...it won't always be that way...but for the current adult generation, it may be tough because that's the ages of men who are still getting used to the idea that we don't "need" them...we're with them because we want to be...but we're also just fine on our own...
2006-09-22 10:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gah I love you!!! I have the same problem. What makes it really funny is I'm 5'4. I think a lot of guys want girls that are all needy, and the such. They don't know what to do when we take care of ourselves. I think men have to feel like they're needed.
2006-09-22 12:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear that!!!!! Damn, I don't know either, I'll watch your answers to see if I can get a clue too!! lol
I have been flat out told I am too intimidateing!! HOW I wonder!!
I'm not the kind of lady that sits back and expects things that I can get on my own.
Maybe I don't act like a lady??? But it sure would nice being treated like one!!
2006-09-22 10:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are intimidated. Trust me, there are men out there that appreciate a woman who can do for herself. I am proof. Married for 11 years & my husband has always been around women in his family that are clingy & codepenent...he flipped when he met me & realized that I am stong & independent. He really appriates that I love him & want him but I don't really "need" him...he knows that if I had to, I can always make it on my own.
You'll find some one to appriate your quality...don't change for anyone.
2006-09-22 10:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by pattysez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they dont like the fact that we can stand on our own 2 feet cuz they like to think that we would die without them which is true for many other reasons but we do know how to support ourselves!!
2006-09-22 10:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like it better when you have to depend on them for everything. That way they can be jerks and you are more likely to put up with it. I am independent, the ones that got scared off by it ....I said " good riddance to".
2006-09-22 10:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by kar_summers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋