2006-09-22 10:19:09 · 27 answers · asked by h_hawkinson 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I think bullying is a very serious issue. He is expelled from school (I don't agree with that--it normally just lets kids have fun at home while they could be learning) so at home there should be no privileges. Make him study harder then he even has to in school. Talk to his teacher if he's gotten any bad grades on tests or assignments re-do them and make sure he understands. Also ask the teacher what the class will be learning. Teach him all that and load him with school work. In the evenings don't let him be entertained by TV or toys. Just let him in his room by himself or let him be with you. Get some references where bullying has been an issue and/or killed students. Explain in detail and get very detailed with this issue. Best of Luck!
I just came back and I'm suprised I got two thumbs down! I guess I"m just the only firm believer in tough love. I really don't know what's wrong with that...I don't feel a good "talk" is all that's needed. Talking doesn't get anyone very far--he needs to know you are serious. Oh well--that's just my opinion.
2006-09-22 10:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am a second grade teacher and a mother of young children. And I have to go against the grain here. I do not think bullying is anything new--and I believe way too much is made of it.
It has become a hysterical PC issue.
Now--I am against kids being mean to each other. And I am certainly against physical violence. But we have gone way overboard on behavior that is lumped together as being 'bullying."
I think there are very few reasons(if any--has never hapened in my school) that a ten year old should be suspended from school. To the extent this is a meaninful punishment--it is pointless with a child that age.
I can not say what I would consider an appropriate punishment (if any) since none of the facts of the situation are given.
If he was my child--and he provoked a fight or was taunting another child he would get paddled and tell the child in person (or write a note) that he was sorry--and it would be a good apology and note--not just an insincere mutter or a one-liner.
As far as what the school should do--something like detention or writing sentences I suppose. But the suspension thing--that is ridiculous.
2006-09-22 10:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH !!! That's OK. That's exactly how it is to live in THIS country. Where it's Dog eat Dog and Nobody trust's Nobody, and everybody has an "I don't care attitude". With kids like yours that are adults now it is no wonder why the crime rate is skyrocketing. If you cannot control your own son then WHAT did you have one for. So that MAYBE a Judge can try and control him later. It's no wonder that this country isn't amounting to much these days and is getting worse and worse decade by decade. Until one of these days soon WE will not have a country. Everybody will throw there hands up in the air and proclaim "WHAT HAPPENED" , like they don't really know or something. It all starts as a Baby. It all starts in the Home. Think about it. How did he ever get to be the Bully in the first place, Think about it. GOOD LUCK to YOUR Son's Future, and unfortunately this Countries future!!!!!!!!
2006-09-22 10:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by joey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out the mop. broom, gloves, vaccum, etc. and make the child work while expelled. The entire time with fifteen minute breaks occassionally. Explain that this is what a real job is like. His job is school. If he is expelled from school, he has to work just like everyone else. Make a long list of things to do and if they don't get done............add to the list.
Afterwards, talk about why he is bullying. Bullies have low self esteem and feel good when they are able to control and hurt others. If this was a one time thing, it could be just experimenting however, if it happens often, he needs to talk to someone about the anger and control issues.
2006-09-24 02:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bulling is becoming a BIG problem. I would sit down and try talking to him asking how he would feel if a high school boy came along and did the same thing to him.More than a punishment I think children that are bullies need professional help right away or maybe some kind of anger management course.Obviously something is going on in his life to bully children around.
Remind him you love him but get him some kind of help.Yelling, screaming, or smacking him back is not going to teach the right way to handle things when they go wrong.In the meantime you could just take some privileges away. Councilling is the answer
Good luck.
2006-09-22 10:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by tea cup 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your son
Ask him why he did it.
Ask him if he could please, talk to the other students (and I bet this is not the first time),
and say he is sorry.
Ask the teachers/guidance at his school for help and suggestions.
Ask you son, what he wishes to give up because there are consequences to what he did.
Ask you son, what work he would like to do for you around the house as a consequence for his actions.
Tell your son you love him.
Tell your son it was wrong
Tell you son the other child was hurt - even if it was just making the other child feel bad.
Tell your son it is not acceptable.
Most importantly, tell your son that there is always someone else who is bigger and badder than he is otherwise, someday he will meet a policeman/woman who will gladly show him "how they will win on any bullying" contest.
Give your son lots of love and attention as that is probably what he wants from you and society.
Try to make lunch and/or dinner time out with him ...just to talk ...if he will and tell him you'll be there for him no matter what, but that you wouldn't like it if someone bullyied YOU! That would make "Mom/Dad feel badly because adults bully too, and they you feel bad....all day!
See if he can find joy again in his life.
Much love.............from a single mom.....with tons of problems!
2006-09-22 10:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bullying is a serious offense in any situation / any school. But to bully someone who is...what 5 grades below him...I think he may have some anger issues. If it were my child who was doing the bullying, the first thing he or she would do was to write an apology letter to the second grader telling him / her that they were sorry for what they did and maybe a little about why bullying is bad. Not only will this embarrass the child, but maybe he will learn something from it. I wouldn't make him deliver the letter in person, but maybe have it mailed to the child's house. Then I would sit and have a long conversation with my child on why bullying is so wrong and how much pain it can cause...if he is willing to listen and maybe get something out of your talk, then I think something small grounding him from...if he is defiant and refuses to listen...I would make his world just like boot camp and explain to him that bullying is NOT ACCEPTABLE!~
2006-09-22 10:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The school doesn't expel unless it was a serious situation. There is zero tolerance on bullying in the schools. For example: Kids think its funny to walk down the hall and side kick or sweep with their leg another kid just for the thrill of seeing them fall. I know I've seen it happen. If he is bullying now in 4th grade he needs help. Usually bullies have real low self-esteem as the underlying problem and bully to pump themselves up. Get him some professional help and be consistent at home. Take away privileges and have him earn them back with good reports from school. And hopefully you don't allow him his own TV and games in his room...if you do take them out...your asking for trouble down the line.
2006-09-22 13:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry, i can't remember ages in school, he's what, a 4th grader?
if you mean expelled as it really means, he has been booted from school untill next august/september, and I would think that has to be some serious bullying for that to happen, and as such i wouldn't be able to answer the question, but i would tell you to fight the school on that, if its just a short suspension, i think you might get away with talking to him and figureing things out better, he might have a reason. Or he might be an asshole at school, which won't be solved on here, really.
2006-09-22 10:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by sathor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. First, make sure there is not an anger issue, history between the two, etc. He needs to understand that bullying is NOT acceptable in schools today.
It really depends on your child. Grounding for sure. Some education for him on bullying. The school counselor can help you there. In fact, they will be more than willing to help. At ten, perhaps a spanking. Again, make sure there are no anger issues first, or this will just aggravate the problem.
2006-09-23 01:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋