we've been goin out on and off through out the year and everytime i break up with him late ri just want him back... but i really don't want him back this time.... he's really nice and sweet and all that but i just don't like him like i used to. i want to still be friends but idk if he'll want to after i break up with him... idk what to do or how to do it..... he cheated on me before and sometimes he never calls for like a week and i don't hear from him at all.... but i don't wanna hurt him. how do i dump him? help me?
2006-09-22 10:18:43 · 13 answers · asked by maniebean92 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget being nice. Just say "Take a hike loser. I was faking it."
2006-09-22 10:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by mxpowertbl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he could be toxic to your life. He cheated in the past, you don't hear from him at times and you are on and off. Sounds like he isn't your man at all.
He's detached. Let him go. Just say that you think he would be better off with someone else who can put up with his distance and lack of respect for a decent relationship and move on.
Be strong and don't take him back into that type of relationship. But also stress that you'd be better off as friends if he wants to work on it and stick to what you say.
And it always help to break up in public. Most people don't like making a scene.
2006-09-22 17:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by sugarapple25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, you can't be friends with someone you dump because 'you no longer feel that way anymore.' If there is one thing guys despise, it's that.
Just talk with him. Honestly is the best policy, after all.
EDIT: You *can* be friends, it's just really hard on his nerves more than it would be on yours (simply because it's easier for you to think of him as a friend b/c that's what you decided.)
2006-09-22 17:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go to his house and throw a brick through the window with a note wrapped around it that says:
"Dear John,
I'm breaking up with you. I'd like to stay friends but if you can't handle that right now, I understand. Take care of yourself.
Jane"
2006-09-22 17:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl i know how you feel about wanting him back but not feelin like you use to. but if you dont want to be with him then dont be cuz you should worry about your happiness not his after him cheatin on you and plus what kind of b/f doesn't talk to his girl for like a week??? just tell him its over and that you wanna be friends and if he does cool if he doesn't then too bad you can do better! all i can say is follow your heart and do what it says cuz all that matters is that you're happy with your decision and your life! good luck!! :)
2006-09-22 17:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by GigglesGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up, make up your mind what you want and don't want, and stop playing with other people's lives and feelings (and so does he).
You simply tell him that you're ready to move on, and that y'all are no longer a good match (doesn't sound like you ever were). Wish him the best, and then move forward with your life.
2006-09-22 17:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. And it would be best time to take time out from talking to him at all, as there seems to be a pattern where you are tempted to date him again. If you want to be friends after this period, great. Meanwhile, find a better guy.
2006-09-22 17:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat_55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him for a three-some but make sure he knows you mean 2 guys and you. That should split you up. Or just kick him in the nuts and tell him this is what your relationship feels like with him.
2006-09-22 17:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to hurt him tell him the truth why you don't want to be with him. Honesty is always the best policy. If he can't handle it at least you know you were honest with him.
Read him all the reasons you just listed to us why you want to break up with him
2006-09-22 17:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by PeachN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth, but i wouldnt expect to be friends afterwards. that is the chance you take when you date someone. most likely you never stay friends after a breakup. sorry, life sucks sometimes.
2006-09-22 17:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by kristy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋