My daughter thinks she is ugly...how can i help her?

Question

i told her if she got a make over ,. shed be beating guys off with both hands.

Answer 1

Hahaha... I was about to write something snide, until i saw the second line...

Good one!

Answer 2

A Few Suggestions:

Don't suggest makeovers-- insist that she's beautiful the way she is now. She will want to make herself feel more beautiful ONLY if she feels she's worth making beautiful. Tell her she's worthy now, or the makeover will be a temporary fix only. It's all about confidence. If you try to boost any confidence she has in her looks, do it before she does anything about them. That way, once the makeup and new hair don't look as great as they did just after the makeover, she'll still feel good about herself.

Ask her why she thinks she's ugly. Find out what specific things about herself she doesn't like and ask what she would do about them if she could.

Remind her that the most beautiful people are the ones who are beautiful on the inside as well as the outside. If you are a confident, happy, outgoing, kind, helpful person, people are generally going to see you as more attractive than those who hide themselves (I was one of those shy, quiet types a while ago, and I am so glad I came out of my shell).

Analyze who her friends/the boys she likes are. Are they making her feel ugly. Do they criticize how she looks? If so, you may suggest that her friends might have something to do with her low self esteem. Tell her to find friends that build her up rather than knock her down.

Consider the age: If she's a teen (which I'm assuming she is), she's not going to probably care what your thoughts are in this area. She's telling you she feels ugly for your sympathy.. not really your advice. Tell her you love her and will do whatever you can (within reason) to help her feel good about herself again. If she asks if you'll pay for a makeover, and you're willing, then go for it. But don't expect it to fix anything permanently.

Answer 3

Is she into the fashion and makeup thing or not? The best way is to help her understand that outer beauty is not everything. Guys will like her for her personality not looks. Yeah, guys do look at looks, but she needs to find her own thing. She needs her own look. So a makeover might be a good confidence and self-esteem booster.
Just don't let her think that she is gonna get guys though a makeover. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and he tells me everyday that I am beautiful. That's not the issue though. He cares more about how I am as a person than looks. It's hard for guys to look past that, but there are some who do.
I was in the same mind set when I was in middle school and high school. I grew out of it. I gave up trying to look pretty for the guys.

I don't know if that helped at all, but I hope it did. All in all, I think a makeover would be good. Let her go get makeup, some new clothes, and a haircut and style. (Even a different color hair may do it) Anything that will help her see that she is beautiful in her own way, and someday to someone else, will help her.

Answer 4

By you telling her "if she got a make over" You thought you were helping but all you did was confirm what see said. You should have asked her what it was she didn't like about herself. Then you to could figure out together what can be done. You have to build up her confidence in her self. A drastic change like a make over is not the answer. Little things at a time work better a gradual change is better for her around her friends. Just be there for and and work on it together.

Answer 5

Maybe take her for a haircut and a few highlights buy her a new outfit and some lipgloss. I'd also explain to her that she is beautiful inside and out and if she is unhappy about it you would like to help- is there anything specific she would like to change. Let her make some suggestions. Maybe take a yoga class together. Always remind her that people are every shape size and color and as long as she is healthy and happy and is always herself she is beautiful.

Answer 6

Give your daughter compliments daily and not just on her looks, but other things that she attempts or does to let her know that she is beautiful in all areas. Don't let her hear you place alot of issues on looks, whether it's yours or what mass media tries to shove down our throats as "beauty". Learning self-confidence and having a positive self-image begins at a young age.

Answer 7

First set and example of not worrying about how you look yourself and how others accept you not matter what. Then point out beautiful characteristics that people or her friends are attracted to. Like the way she might be funny, smart, artistic, talent she may have or just cool movies she likes

Answer 8

now that was rude, 'tell her to get a makeover'... just tell her she is beautiful until she feels like she is, get her cute clothes, get her a cute hair style, have her wear some makeup. The only difference between a dog and a fox is make up. I have seen some ugly pictures of movie stars, they are just as plain as we are under their make up and hair styles.

Answer 9

Tell her how beautiful she is, she needs to be assured that she's not ugly. All girls go through this stage where they think they're ugly, all you have to do is remember when you were her age and what helped you out when you felted like this. Good Luck.

Answer 10

My daughter used to tell me she thought she was ugly. I told her she was beautiful and I loved her very much.

One day she was really upset about it and I got out picture of me at her age. Before I showed them to her I asked her if she thought I was ugly. she said no.

I showed her the baby pictures and they look just like her. I said ,if she doesn't think I am ugly and she looks just like me then how can she possibly be ugly. She laughed, gave me a hug told me she loved me and hasn't said she is ugly since.

Answer 11

Have a mother-daughter day with her...Where you go get facials and makeovers and go shopping for new clothes and take pictures. Explain to her how to keep her new look together and encourage her to take care of her self. Actions speak louder than words!