I love my man to death but he treats me as though he knows that I won't leave him if this treatment persists. I know Im a good girlfriend and I don't really want to breakup but I am on the brink with him! I tell him he needs too he just doesn't see the seriousness of my feelings on this situation. Any suggestions?
2006-09-22 10:00:56 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is too comfortabe with you. challenge him and maybe cool it for a while and make him work to get you back and if he doesnt then he is just using you anyway and your better off in the long run
2006-09-22 10:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by patrick b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lay down the law to him. Let him know how you feel about the treatment. Tell him that things need to change or you are out of there. If he doesn't change then leave him. You will find someone else who will treat you like a lady.
2006-09-22 10:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have told him how you feel and he seems to not care, then things will not change. It sounds like he is completely confident that you won't leave. I think that perhaps you should call his bluff. It may do you two some good. If he doesn't care about your feelings, then you are wasting your time. Someone who cares about you and loves you doesn't do this. You and your feelings should be top priority with him and vise versa.
2006-09-22 10:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do your own thing and be happy doing it. Don't involve him in your plans, etc. Do not cater to him. If he does not get the picture and you have told him your feelings already, don't beat a dead horse. Life is too short and there are far too many men out there that will not treat you badly.
2006-09-22 10:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by naughty_mattress_monkey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Explain that if he doesn't change you will ditch him. And then do it. If only half heartedly. Avoid him for awhile. Don't let him touch you. Ignore him. Anything until he starts begging. I know it sounds kind of cruel, but you have to make him understand that you're serious about how upset his actions make you feel. And he won't change unless you show him that his actions are bothering you.
Depending on what he's doing, try doing the same to him. See how he likes it.
2006-09-22 10:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Caryssa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
women as a general rule seem to put up with so much more than the men do! I hear we teach people how to treat us! so if you are tired of his unacceptable behavior than let him know and follow through with some type of action. May be he needs to be shook into reality!
2006-09-22 10:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. talk to him before he talks to you
2. ask him how his family is doin
3. be yourself
4. leave your hair straight down n' smooth/shiny like in the advertisements
5. try to remember what he said looks good on you. like he might have said that you look good in those high heels or those large ear rings
6. make up a lie, tell him that he has some dirt on his shoulder, rub it off
7. tell him that his hair looks good
8. don't talk about his friends too much, he may think that you have a crush on them as well, keep it to the minimum
9. don't tell anything to disappoint him, like don't tell him that his car is cheap, he'll get nervous
10. and finally, before you leave, give him a big hug, kiss him and tell him to take care of himself
good luck.....it's not hard as you think it is...
2006-09-22 10:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tosh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he will keep treating you that way as long as you let him. it may be too late for this relationship but in the future, when you are getting to know some one, you have to put a stop to any behavior that at all is negative. bad behavior has a way of snowballing.
2006-09-22 10:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by paysdividends 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey men don't appreciate women period! Especially good women, they just keep taking advantage and it never ends with you or whoever else they decide to be with. They just keep on being jerks to all the women they're with so try not to take it personal.
2006-09-22 10:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by Xander's Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow your world to revolve around him, find a hobby...don't be at his every need. It appears that he is sure of himself & that you will not break up w/him so he is taking the situation for granted. If you want & need to feel appreciated and have voiced this to him & he isn't listening...then you need to just let him go.
2006-09-22 10:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by pattysez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋