I am 18 years old and in college and have a crush on this guy in my pschology class. I am really shy though only ever had one real bf. Also he is really well maintained and i am only just learning how to be. He is also a little older than me maybe 22 really good looking and buff. I am 5ft6 and 104 - 105 pounds maybe and flat chested only a 32A. My face is clear and i am told i am cute but i feel akward especially with my curly hair that tends to never stay in place. Today he saw me looking at him and i was so embarrassed turned beat red!
2006-09-22 09:57:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How can i get him too notice and like me?
2006-09-22 09:58:25 · update #1
I even accidently triped over my own two feet and nearly spilled coffee on top of us both?
2006-09-22 09:59:33 · update #2
I have never even spoken too him
2006-09-22 10:01:21 · update #3
He seems really confident
2006-09-22 10:13:39 · update #4
Ask him to study with you then once you get to know him better ask him out
2006-09-22 10:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my dear. I will assume you are looking for affection, perhaps even love if you are bold enough to venture upon it.
Let's try to set a couple of things straight in your mind over which you seem to be a bit muddled.
Attraction, and love are in preponderance mental states. You build this young man up in your description as though he were unattainable, and then your describe yourself in terms that suggest you are not worthy.
A man worth his salt is not concerned with your chest size, your weight, or the comely state of your visage. He is concerned with your attitude, your style, and the way you conduct yourself.
You know who you are. Be confident in that. No one knows you so well as yourself. If you deign to share some of that with a man, he is then privileged with such confidences. You have shown him favor, and that is a gift not to be underestimated.
Draw from this the boldness necessary to approach this young man. Say hello. Say something about him that you have admired. That usually will break the ice.
At the very least it will start a conversation. If it does not blossom beyond that, well you have taken the initiative. You have not allowed opportunity to pass unremarked. Is that not better than going through your life wondering if something might have been, but was not explored because of your timidity?
Love yourself first, and then you will be ready for others to do the same.
2006-09-22 17:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by anonymourati 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Superb confidence and a captivating aura will make a physically average person into a total hottie.
Looks have much less to do with it than you think. It's impossible to guess what other people will be attracted, because everyone is a hottie to someone. He might find your awkwardness endearing... or it might be he's vain and shallow, as good-looking college boys can be.
First step: be confident in yourself. Love your body for what it is. (I've never known a guy to mind cup size, as long as he gets to see 'em).
Second step: Sit near him, catch his eye, then drop your eyes for about 5-10 seconds, then look up again with a knowing little smile, a mona lisa "cat-licking-cream" sort of smile, a "I know I'm a hottie and a freak in da sheets, and you're a hottie too" sort of smile. If he's paying attention at all, it will get his interest.
Good luck!
2006-09-22 17:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably already has noticed you and you just haven't realised it yet, he may want to talk to you. Try to be a bit more confident about yourself and tell yourself you could get him. If you do something silly/embarassing then just laugh and make a joke out of it and see how he responds, thats what i do. It seems hard b/c you are a shy girl but the more you talk to ppl the easier it becomes. I hope you get this guy!
2006-09-22 17:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by missy minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about your flaws such as your weight,hair,etc.
Have some type of self esteem about yourself. Dress yourself up really pretty one day for class and approach the guy start a conversation about the class and then go from there but it starts with having some type of confidence in yourself.
2006-09-22 17:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you can't make him like you-that decision is his and his alone.
As far as getting him to notice you, sit next to him in class. Ask him to borrow a pencil or a piece of paper. Tell him you missed the prior class and ask if he can catch you up or if you can borrow his notes. Once you build a little conversation, make sure you walk by him in the future classes and smile or say hi to him or sit by him. Once you build up a speaking relationship, ask him if he wants to study with you in the library or wherever it is on campus that people study. If you make it that far and he is interested, you will know and if he is, he may ask you out somewhere.
2006-09-22 17:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep thinking, "What's the worst that could happen?" He will not bite your head off. Walk up and say hi. The studying thing is a good idea. Or.. ask to hang out.. or just... a smile and a handshake (maybe) will open the door and something will happen.
2006-09-22 17:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by Matt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, when you pass by him say "hi, how's going" try to do this every time you see him. that's all it take for him to notice you. work up a casual conversation, find out as much as you can about his interest. work on that to prolong the conversation. don't worry about how you look, it's obvious that he's interest in you. so, take care of this first step first to know him better. maybe he'll be right for you, but you'll never know if you don't break the ice.
2006-09-22 17:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start a conversation with "hi" and introduce yourself. That's it. You sound like a beautiful (inside and out) young lady and he will notice you when you stop feeling awkward around him. When he catches your eye, smile. Men really love it when good eye contact is made. You need to be proud of who you are and let it show. Good luck!
2006-09-22 17:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 105 lbs, you could stand to put a little weight on, but you don;'t sound horrendous or anything. Don't worry about the small breasts, no biggie. You just have to make the effort! What I mean by that is smiling, talking, etc.
2006-09-22 17:07:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talking to him is a start. And just be yourself, I mean if he doesn't like you for what you are he is not worth it and you are too good for him.
Plus, you sound like someone who is a nice person. And from what I have heard, most guys love curly hair. Well the most I can tell you to do is talk to him. =D
2006-09-22 17:01:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋