what do you do if your bf hits you?

Question

im 15 and a bf whose dad beats the **** outta him everyday and last nite we were fighting and it got really intense and he pushed me aganst the wall before he realized what was going on what do i do to help him?

Answer 1

You really need to get out as soon as you most possibly can, it can only get worse. I have a good friend who was okay with it at first and then it got worse and just couldn't seem to leave him even though it was tearing her apart. She's away from him now, but it took a long time to get there. Don't put yourself through the agony. Get out now.

Answer 2

One of two things. Either tell him when he's calm but in as firm and as serious a voice as you could possibly muster: "That is THE last time you will ever hit me. If it EVER happens again, EVER, I will dump you faster than you can possibly imagine and I will also file charges of assault against you and I will be there in court every single day I have to be to put you away. Do I make myself clear?" And then stick to it.

OR....you could drop him this very minute and never, ever see him or speak to him again and get a restraining order to make sure he knows you are serious. That's what I really think you should do, though I bet you'd rather give him a second chance.

Make sure your mom and some other adults know this happened and what you are going to do about it so they can support you.

You can't help him! He is the only one who can help him. He needs to not only WANT to change, but be willing to do the work to do it. That's the hard part and it will not be easy to change of lifetime of modeling. I want to lose weight but I cannot bring myself to do the hard work that is necessary to actually lose the weight. So, no matter how much I want to do it; it doesn't happen. That's what it may be like for your boyfriend. Good luck.

Answer 3

First you need to report the abuse on his dad towards him. The B/F needs to go into counseling before he can have a good relationship with you. The pattern has started with your B/F already. As he gets older if he doesn't get help he will be an abuser. Please don't wait if you really care about him get him help before he really hurts you bad or worse. You need to speak with your parents about this. Don't be another tragedy no matter how much you care about him. In the long run you both will be better off. As for his dad he he needs some help and fast. Where is your B/F mother at in the picture?

Answer 4

You can tell him that your trust in him has been irretrievably broken and leave him (and not return.) He'll get the message and it will help. Alternatively, you can try to get him into counseling discretely. Help him talk to the school counselor.

Don't be alone with him. Always be in a safe place, regardless of how apologetic he may be. Make him earn your trust again n(if you don't want to leave which is probably preferable). Sadly, prisons are full of violent offenders who began as abused children. It's just the way of this fallen world. That's not to say that he is without hope, but you are under no obligation to expose yourself to any danger, especially to someone who says he is your boyfriend then attempts to injure you, either mentally or physically. This is just not consistent with love.

Answer 5

There's is nothing you can do for him. He needs to do it on his own. The best thing you should do is end this relationship. Believe me this will only escalate if you don't leave now. Yeah, you love him, you want to support him in any way you can, Honey you're 15. You don't need to start living a life in drama. Tell him to seek counsel from the schools counselor. He is the only one to make the change. First & for most, Pray. Women seem to think we are the reason, or the only ones to change our men that's not true.

Answer 6

First of all, you are sooo young to be thinking about matters that serious. You need to focus on school and life. Live life, there is plenty of time for boys later. You can never rewind and go back to your highschool age to enjoy it.

Secondly, you can only blame your parents for so long. He knows that type of behavior is wrong. If he didn't, he would not have felt bad afterward. He needs to speak to one of the school councelors. Maybe even the school psychiatrist. It's best to let an intelligent adult handle something like this instead of taking it into your own hands. You will only make matters worse if you just continue this relationship without seeking professional help, at least for him and his father.

Answer 7

I hate to tell you, but you really have to leave him. You'll soon learn... Im glad your going through this now and not as an adult because if you were grown, you would be mad depresswed and proibaly lose your job and crap. Too many responsibilities as an adult to worry about a woman beater. Well, this experience is going to make you a stronger woman. Watch!

Answer 8

You leave him beffore he lays another hand on you. Then, you call the police and report his father for child abuse. When he sees dad getting carted offf to jail, perhaps he will think twice about hitting a lady...

At 15yo, you shouldnt be in a relationship that makes you fight and argue like that. Not healthy. get out while you are still alive.

Answer 9

If a boy lays a hand on you (assuming you didn't hit him first) the proper response is to either hit him back hard enough to knock the snot out off him and then leave him forever, or if you are not physically strong enough to knock the living snot out of him...skip to step 2 and leave him forever..

Answer 10

u break up with him..because he is being abused and he is going to entwine this into his relationship I'm sorry but once an abuser it's hard to get them to stop and ur so young that u can move forward and find someone who is not a abuser.but he has to help himself before u can help him he has to won't to get help maybe talk to a counselor if ur not going to leave him...good luck ....