what do you do if your bf hits you?

Question

im 15 and a bf whose dad beats the **** outta him everyday and last nite we were fighting and it got really intense and he pushed me aganst the wall before he realized what was going on what do i do to help him?

Answer 1

Tell someone. Mom

Answer 2

I think you need to sit down with your Boyfriend and have a talk. He needs to get away from his Father one way or another.
Maybe there is a School Consular or a relative he could talk to.
I believe your Boyfriend knows what he did to you was wrong and he knows what his Father is doing to him is wrong. It is against the law and it is called domestic abuse/violence.

As most have said, your Boyfriend has been raised by an abuser and therefore it is likely he will turn out the same way. Surely he wouldn't want to turn out like his Father?
He need to take a step towards a better life, moving away from his Father and getting counseling. This is a step he needs to take and you could be his Friend, try to be there for him.

Under no circumstances ever accept the position of being any ones personal punching bag. That goes for both of you!

I wish you well.

Answer 3

before he can be any ones boy friend or husband he needs to get counseling. There is nothing that you can do but to call the cops or tell mom. This is something that will happen over and over to you if you stay with him. He will always be real sorry and say that it will never happen again. What in fact really happens he will be real nice for a while but he WILL lose control again. You are to Young to let this happen to you. If you stay with him and you ever have children together you also run a rick of putting them in danger. I know that you care for him and you may say that you love him. In the end all it becomes is a sick, loathing love or complete hatred with the look of no exit to be found. Please protect yourself you are no punching bag. Good Luck

Answer 4

Try talking to him calmly and ask him if he realizes that he's acting like his father and you'd like to help in in any way but you can't tolerate that type of behavior on you.Maybe he could attend an anger management course, talk to a guidance councilor, or get some professional help.If he's starting abusive ways now it's very unlikely he's going to stop without some help.
Arguing is normal but when it becomes physical you have to be careful and start watching out for yourself.DO NOT tolerate being hit or pushed around.If it continues no matter how much you care for him please get out of the relationship.It will only get worse if he's not willing to go for help.Don't put yourself in danger.

Answer 5

You want to follow the teachings of Jesus, you want to turn the other cheek. You are a kind and compassionate person. You want to help him like Jesus helped so many. You are not Jesus. I lived by the teachings of Jesus my entire life and have been abused and taken advantage of as well as found joy in helping others. It is a very tough question.

What would Jesus tell you to do? You do not have the power he had to heal, though I am sure you, as I, wish we could. But the fact is that he has serious problems that are not his fault but would take a miracle to overcome. Pray for him, but don't stay with him. You deserve everything you want for others and that means not being hurt. When you can give yourself the same love that you offer to others you will have more strength to help others. Allowing another to hit you is not loving yourself. Jesus does want you to love yourself as much as anyone because you are just like all of us, worthy of love and respect. When you are able to do this you will have the strength to really help others, who can be helped. As much as you care for him you are not ready to take on this challenge and risk so much. Work on being a fully well rounded person now and you will go far in living up to the ideal of being a good person.

Answer 6

there's nothing u can do..if his dad beats him, then that's all he's everknown, which he probably thinks It's right that he can do the same thing..I'd either tell someone or just break up w/him. he does it once, he'll do it again..so think about what's best for u..keep in mind, if u do break up w/him..he'll try & make threats towards and threaten to kill his self..but it's all a gimmick.. I bene through It, and It's not worth it..your young & free..you have NO ring on your finger..so just chill out & leave him..but like I said..do what's best for u...

Answer 7

HELP HIM? You need to help yourself and get as far away from him as you can as fast as you can. He may say sorry and he will never do it again, but he will. They always do.
Ask my mother who lay in a hospital bed for two weeks in a coma after my father, who swore he would never hit her again, beat the hell out of her with a baseball bat

Answer 8

Counseling?

Answer 9

Your boyfriend has to get help for himself. You can encourage him, but you can't make him do it.

Children who grow up in abusive homes -- and it sounds like your boyfriend fits into that category -- frequently become abusers themselves. It sounds like that's happened to your boyfriend.

You might want to suggest that he see a therapist who specializes in anger management.

But be careful around him. You could get hurt. If he hits you again, you should just leave him to protect yourself.

Answer 10

You call the police. Really. He will get the help he needs then. His dad will be reported, and he will get in trouble for abusing you. If he doesn't, it will just continue on. Please. You don't have a choice.

Answer 11

You don't. If he's getting voilent with you LEAVE him. Don't chance it getting worse. Please. It's too hard to get out of after they start getting really voilent.

Turn his dad in to the police for domestic voilence. If he gets out of that situation and gets counselling maybe he'll be safe for you to be around.