im 15 and a bf whose dad beats the **** outta him everyday and last nite we were fighting and it got really intense and he pushed me aganst the wall before he realized what was going on what do i do to help him?
2006-09-22 09:47:50 · 20 answers · asked by Emma W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Leave him right away, he needs help
2006-09-22 10:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, guys certainly can hit girls but only in self-defense and as a last resort.
Now, I feel sorry for him because he's developed this tendency to respond to frustration/anger violently from his father. I think you should make every attempt to hug him and console him and let him know that you're there for him and that you love him
BUT that he cannot hit you.. you're not his enemy and you don't treat a girl like that. By all means, be sympathetic, but realize when it's time to get out.
2006-09-22 09:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by Matt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You help yourself. One hit=many more, even death. He is being abused and he acts out in the only way he knows. You are not a psychologist, you can't "help" him, but you can take care of YOU before it gets any worse. Ask him to seek help, tell him that you will be supportive but you cannot continue a relationship with him.
2006-09-22 11:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by monique718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 points
2006-09-22 09:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by Pauline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart listen carefully. You can not fix what is broke in your boyfriend. He has anger and rage because of the abuse he is going through! he will only get worse!! You need to leave him! Run and do not look back!!! He has to solve his own problems with the abuse that is happening to him!!Maybe he can talk to a relative or school counselor! But you must, must let him go!!!! PLease!!!!!!
2006-09-22 10:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off he needs to get counseling. He is going to have some serious problems to deal with in his future since on average most abused kids tend to become abusers as they get older. As for you, you need to make it clear that is unacceptable and if it ever happens again you have to leave. I know that sounds harsh but that is what you must do for your own good and his.
2006-09-22 09:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is never any reason why a guy should hit a girl. You ned to get out of that relationship!
2006-09-22 09:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I f you want to help him, get out now and get him to get himself some help regarding his Dad beating him. Good luck
2006-09-22 09:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by madfairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him and his father to the lunatic asylum where they belong and find yourself another sane bf. Like father, like son.
2006-09-22 09:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him? Run like hell girl, it will only get worse and it will NEVER end. You are only 15, don't get stuck with some loser
2006-09-22 09:51:18 · answer #10 · answered by alphawolf38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your job to help him, it is your job to protect yourself. If you start taking care of men and their problems now you will be doing it for the rest of your life....He has to be responsible for his own actions and if you continue to allow someone to mistreat you, I do not feel sorry for you.....
2006-09-22 09:52:55 · answer #11 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋