Just curious. The gf and I have been dating for a while, long enough that the Romeo and Juliet stuff has died down and getting into the whole stage of real bf and gf stuff. Now that strong emotions are becoming apparent for each other, she is holding out sex. I know she cares for me very much and when we're together we work great as a couple. Now before anyone tells me she found someone else, don't waste our time b/c I trust her and, frankly, that's my perogative. My question is girls, if you are falling for your bf emotionally, why on Earth would you not sleep with him? Does this really happen? Any advice on solutions?
(And yes, we have talked, briefly, mind you, and she said she is a little frightened but she isn't sure why. We have had sex early(ish) and often, but then it just stopped.)
2006-09-22 09:45:22 · 12 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, guys need to respect when a girl doesn't want to sleep with him....and vice versa of course. Maybe her feelings are so strong that it's startled her & she doesn't know what to think...that could be why she's frightened a bit. When it comes to sex maybe she realized that she really isn't ready for the seriousness & extreme emotional bonding that comes with it.
Also, sit down & have a long serious talk with her & see if maybe something has happened to her in the past. That could be what's deterring her away from it all. If something has happened & you still want to be with her then most definitely make sure to show her that you'll be there for her.
My last ex I fell extremely hard for emotionally & I was hesitant about sleeping with him. That's because I've been hurt so much by so many guys & I was afraid of it happening again. There's always a reason! Sometimes it may just be a little harder to figure out.
2006-09-22 10:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by §uper ®ose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a number of reasons she changed he mind. Maybe she got the scare that she might be pregnant and that woke her up to the real world. She might have come to the realization that there is more to a relationship than sex. She may have even gotten a guilty conscious and remembered that it is best to weight till marriage to do the really entiment things. What ever her reason is she must not feel at ease telling you so you should respect that. Just know that if it were another man she would tell you real quick. The most important thing that you need to do is sit down and calmly talk to her. Communication is the whole idea of entimencay. Just give her time.
2006-09-22 17:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I don't know why. I have decided in an relationship NOT to have sex early one, but that usually changes later on. I have never started having sex with a bf and then stopped.
Is it a possibility that she does not care for sex? Maybe she had it early on because she thought you expected it. Then when she became more confident in your feelings for her, she was able to stop.
This is a rough one. Good luck to you.
2006-09-22 16:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to talk about this more than just briefly.
Sit down.. have a chat.. figure out where you are on this.
Then you need to decide if what you agreed on is somethning you can live with.
If you can't then you need to respect that and terminate the relationship.
Chances are this is just a red flag for other problems you two are having (and you may not realize).
communication is the key.
2006-09-22 16:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest i think she has hang ups about herself, these could be anything from not feeling comfortable with you watching her body, or she feels she wont be up to your expectations regarding sex, so be patient, and gentle with her...reassure her let her know you will be gentle with her...maybe this might help quench those fears of hers. Good Luck.
2006-09-22 16:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just wait and see some times it takes time, dont push her or make a big deal of it, But i dont understand if you love someone what is the hold is for i just dont understand.
2006-09-22 16:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by Alisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she regrets it. Whatever the reason you should respect her decision. If you are understanding toward her needs, she'll come around.
2006-09-22 16:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she enjoyed it the first time?
2006-09-22 16:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by smiley 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't be so goddamn pushy! maybe that's why she doesn't want to sleep with you! she'll have sex whenever she goddamn well pleases!
2006-09-22 16:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Respect her.
2006-09-22 16:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋