I have meet an old high school classmate. Well we exchange numbers and are kicking it off very well. He has ask me to move in with him. I told him we need to wait a while just so we can get to know each other more on a personal level. He says he finally found someone with quality. My question is my parent are so protective I am 27yrs. old. What should I do to let them know I am going to have my own life and be with this man. He is a provider and a church going man. I know things will work with GOD in our lives.
2006-09-22 09:40:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Grow up! 27 and the parents are still the biggest influence in your life? You don't have a life, your parents have an extra one to live for you. GROW UP.
2006-09-22 09:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is understandable that your parents are protective. As a parent, I am the same way. However, you have the right as an adult to make your own choices. Sit your parents down and let them know how you feel about this guy. Let them know that he is a provider, a man of God, but most importantly, that he cherishes you. It would be easier if they knew that he is someone that can be relied upon and will treat their baby right. Good luck to you!
2006-09-22 16:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he's a church-going man, he is well aware that he should NOT live with a woman he is not related or married to.
You were completely right about not moving in with him in the first place--you don't know him that well yet. Time changes people, you should already be aware of this fact. It's been roughly 10 years since you've seen this guy, that's a *l o n g* time. A lot can happen in 10 years, ya know?
I say stick with your instincts. GOD has always spoken to me through mine. I trust that He is no different with you.
2006-09-22 16:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are committing adultery in Gods eyes ... Read Matthew.
You are suppose to save yourself for your future husband...
On the other hand I don't care what you do ... I am not a bible beater I am just an Aethiest that has read the bible ...
Aside from that don't move in with him ... because it is always better to have your own free space ... that way you will have your place to go to get away from everybody when you want to.
Or do move in with him if you are trying to create a better financial situation (example: not having to pay for two apartments) Yet, be careful because the break up will be worse since you both are paying for eachothers stuff.
2006-09-22 16:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are 27 and still living at home. I am sure he has come to pick you and and your parents have voiced their feelings for this man correct? If he is truly a Godly man he would wait until you are married and he take you out of the house in a more positive manner(married). I wouldn't advise you to move in with any man at this point if you say your parents are protective. They re protective for a reason. Your a grown woman and you have to do whats best for you. Its OK to want to please your parents but you need to please yourself first. I sure that you know in the eyes of the church that this is the wrong thing to do live with a man out of wedlock.What personal level are you referring to? You have me confused either your living in a Godly manner or your trying to kick it with him? Godly men would ask you to move in with them right. Having god in your life will help good luck!
2006-09-22 16:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are really into the guy just tell your parents straight up that you want to be with him. why should you beat around the bush? you are 27 your a big girl now! you should not have to answer to your parents anymore. your parents love you but there comes a time when they have to let go and let you live your life for yourself. it may be hard on them for a while but i'm sure eventually they will understand. you can not put your life on hold for your parents. you are more than capable to make your own decisions. i'm sure that in time your parents will grow to love him to. good luck!
2006-09-22 16:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by lem 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should pray about it, when your not sure what to do in a situation, stay where you are and pray, if this man is right for you everything will work out well, even things with your parents should work out well, but pray and give it time, you are right to wait, never rush into anything but ask God for His leading in the situation, also commit your parents to God, commit the whole thing to God and allow Him to lead you and He will, in His time and in His way, because God wants the best for you. And yes even the bad things in life work out for good to those who love God, and who are called according to His purposes, hope and pray everything works out for you.
2006-09-22 16:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by katiessupernan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God will need to administer the vows of marriage before you co habitate otherwise he is just goes to church hell I do that and would love to shack up with a 27 year old. Dump him and Move to Buffalo sweetheart
2006-09-22 16:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Tim D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't you think it would be ideal for you to get married first before you move in? I don't see any problem with your parents if there's gonna be a wedding between the two of you. Since he is a church going man, he knows what's the right thing to do for two people in love wanting to be together for the rest of their lives.
2006-09-22 16:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think you are ready for that level of commitment with this man. I can tell it by your question. Why the rush? Take your time to make sure it's right...especially if this is going to cause major drama with your family. Make sure he's the ONE before you get into all that drama.
2006-09-22 16:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by julesl68 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋