I am sleeping with my best friend but without any expectations, I'm getting expectations, what should I do?

Answer 1

no comment

Answer 2

It sounds as if before you go any further into the relationship you need to clarify exactly what your expectations are with your partner. If you made the agreement with them that there would be no expectations, that is probably the assumption they are going under. If your feelings have changed, you need to let them know so you can decide on the course of action you two need to take now. It will save a lot of hard feelings if you do. It may be too late to salvage the friendship if they don't reciprocate your feelings, but it will save a whole bunch of heartache and animosity. And you never know, just maybe they feel the same as you. You won't know unless you lay the cards on the table.
Good luck

Answer 3

I am the kind of person that you seem to be-- I can't just sleep with someone regularly, and not develop feelings for them. And it just so happens to be your best friend. I think you should sit your friend down and explain to them how you feel. If you guys agreed there wouldn't be any expectations, (and that was fooling yourselves from the beginning), and you feel different now, let them know how you feel and see if they feel the same. Otherwise you are going to hold those feelings inside and be hurt. What kinds of expectations do you have?

Answer 4

I am also sleeping with my best friend and neither of us have any expectations. The trick is to seperate yourself from them for a while. Take a break, hang out with someother friends for a few days. Just keep telling yourself their only a friend and thats how it will stay.

Answer 5

You need to talk to your friend and discuss the fact that your developing feelings and expectations. If this is what they want and can't give you then you need to stop sleeping together immediately before you go any further down this path and end up hurt and angry.

Answer 6

Thats why friends with benefits usually does not work. One person starts to get more feelings than the other and somebody gets hurt.

What you are going to have to do is, one, either let him know how you are feeling and see if he feels the same. If he doesnt you really cant get mad at him because you both went into this knowing what the deal was.

Or you are going to have to get out of it now, before your feelings get even stronger and you hurt yourself even more. Even if it means not being friends. You might have to give yourself time to get over it before you can keep any type of relationship with him.

Answer 7

She is a woman. You should have known better. Men can have relationship without strings attached, women can not. You need to tell her you think that maybe you two should chill out for awhile. But I warn you, she already has feelings that you can't reverse. This is definately going to effect your friendship.

Answer 8

You have to tell your sex buddy that you are wanting more than just a good time and if he doesn't want more from you, then cut the sex off if you can't handle it. You don't want added emotional confusion, so be honest and up front with him. He can either take it or leave it.

Answer 9

If he can't handle the terms of the relationship, you either need to change the terms or end it. You shouldn't let him believe that the relationship has long term potential if you know it doesn't.

Answer 10

You have now crossed the line and have changed the friendship forever. Your just feeling the tip of the iceberg so good luck...you'll need it.

Answer 11

Praise Tammy!