But do you forgive someone for cheating or leave.
2006-09-22 09:22:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If they do it once they find new ways of hiding it the next time.If someone loves you they don't cheat to start with.Move on.I'm sorry,I know what it's like.My wife even got to the point of being "cocky" about it.She thought it made her cute or something. It hurts to split but hurts more to keep going through it over and over.
2006-09-22 09:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that it either takes a very strong person or a very stupid one to forgive someone. My ex cheated on me and I took him back. It totally turned me into this crazy jealous person. I tried to forgive him, but I couldn't let it go. I just don't understand how someone who is says they love you could betray you in such a way. He claimed he changed, and I caught him cheating again. Needless to say, I left him. I wasn't going to stick around to see if he'd cheat or change. It just isn't worth getting hurt like that again.
2006-09-22 09:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen some marriages come back from a spouse cheating and be stronger than ever. I've also seen some marriages where the spouse who had been cheated on carries that pain with them forever and have it affect future relationships. I think it is all up to what you think you can handle. And the marriages I have seen come back from infidelity did do some long-term counseling.
2006-09-22 09:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from personal experience, you can forgive that person for what they did. But you can never trust them again. A few weeks ago i broke up with my girlfriend of years becuase she cheated on me, and for the last 8 months i was trying to get past it, i forgave her, but i could never trust her again. My advice is to forgive the person, and move on, break up with the guy,and find somone that respects you enough to NOT cheat.
2006-09-22 09:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Irish ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get you fine little rear end out of there. That crap isnt worth your time or trouble because from here on out you will always have that in the back of your mind. Next time you see him talking to a chick you are gonna think maybe he is trying to hook up with her and worry about it all the time like i wonder here he is, he was supposed to be here 2 hours ago. You will never be able to truly forgive him regardless of what you tell yourself. Trust me it always stays in the back of your mind
2006-09-22 09:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by LT. DAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave...not worth it. Seriously, I've been cheated on...I left...as if I would stand for something like that. And I've done the cheating...I still left...couldn't respect my bf for wanting to take me back.
2006-09-22 09:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgave someone once. He did it again. However, I know of people who have forgiven cheating and gone on to have a great relationship.
2006-09-22 09:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sort of depends on the situation.
But honestly, as Dr. Phil says, it's a deal breaker. Sorry. I just don't think you can ever trust him again and a relationship without trust has a lot of problems.
2006-09-22 09:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by wendyshannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you do forgive, you will never forget. The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour, so chances are there will be no change. Move on...
2006-09-22 10:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both. i forgive them and then leave. not because i WANT TO, but because it changes they way i think of them...maybe i've only loved what I THOUGHT they were. but if its something you can get past, give it one more shot...but take a break first to make sure its what you want. i just know that me, personally, ...i couldnt handle it. it would haunt my mind.... but i dont think other ppl are wrong for not letting go.
2006-09-22 09:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋