Does he like me or does he just want in my pants?

Question

I am starting to really like a good guy friend of mine. We dated 2 years ago and it ended because he didn't like me as much as I loved him. We've been friends since then, but we've been intimate lately, starting this summer. That was my first mistake. We are not dating or together at all, just friends that fool around. I can't do it anymore or I will fall in love with him again. I have been turning down his passes for a month now and he is now a good friend, like we were before we dated. He asks me to hang out all of the time. This makes me want to ask him if he likes me again. My brain says no he just wants in your pants again. I called him out on it while he was asking me to spend the night and he ofcourse denied it . I would just ask him all of this but we are not dating and I don't want him to think that I think we are and I don't want to overstep my boundaries. Do I sit him down and ask him all this or just assume he wants in my pants and keeping saying no?

Answer 1

Sometimes the direct approach is best, just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question.
1) Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?
2) Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something.
3) Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away.
4) Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
Just remember, take each moment like it will be the last. This I feel will be a good start for you in knowing. Good Luck!!!!!!!

Answer 2

The best thing you should do is sit down and talk to him. Let him know that you don't want him to hang out with you to just get in your pants. Let him know your boundaries and if he stays around then maybe he isn't in it for the sex, but if you don't hear from him again after you two talk, then maybe he was in it to just get into your pants. I say give him a chance and let him make the choice and then you'll have your answer. Good luck.

Answer 3

Until he shows otherwise, I would assume you are correct with your gut feeling. If he doesn't step up and prove that you are his one and only, then you are asking for more heartache. You can't go on being his old reliable when nothing else is available. You think more of yourself than that. Don't you? Well, then, step back and put the ball in his court. Unless you just WANT to be his playtoy, you need to set the boundaries and stick to them.

Answer 4

Hello, Guys can be sweet when they want sex & they will tell you any lie that will work. If he truly loved you & wanted to win your heart & cared about having a relationship that gives instead of takes...then you wouldn't be having all these doubts, like you are now. If he just wants you for sex- then that's as far as the relationship goes. Love should come first -the kind of love that puts you first,ahead of himself- that wants to honor you & make you happy...it looks to me that he is trying to satisfy an urge. Lust will feel great for a while but later make you feel empty because you are being used instead of loved. You owe it to yourself to find someone who will love you- that's the only way to find true happiness...hope you make the right decision. Good luck...bye bye

Answer 5

maybe he likes you and wants to get in your pants. That does not mean he wants a relationship, or won't want one later. Calm down and enjoy his company and passions if both are to your liking. If you keep giving it up and he's been a friend for two years, he'll probably end up wanting to date you with a little jealousy.

Answer 6

Warning: you're gonna get hurt, sweetie...

The two of you are obviously not looking for the same thing out of this (unclear) relationship...

You already tried dating, and it didn't work out. Try not to get your hopes up, or you'll be disappointed when you break up, again.

You can stay friends *or* continue being intimate: whatever you choose, you'll have to assume the consequences...

Good luck!

Answer 7

He most likely really likes your intimate connection and bond that you two have. He is obviously attracted to you enough to want to be with you in that way, but if that's not what you want...then yes, you need to talk to him. You need to express your feelings, about how you want more. And if he's not willing to date you, then I would bag it. He's just not that into you then. You never know, by talking to him, it may get him thinking about his own emotions...he's either denying his own feelings or he doesn't care enough and just wants in your pants

Answer 8

Man codes rule #9806: The morning after you and a babe who was formerly “just a friend” have carnal, drunken monkey sex, the fact that you’re feeling weird and guilty is no reason not to nail her again before the discussion about what a big mistake it was.

Answer 9

well i personally think he want to get in your pants but sit him down and talk about it. tell him whats been on your mind and tell him that you dont wanna do the whole friends with benefits thing anymore. it was a big mistake to mess around with him. so thats a lesson. never mess around with anyone unless they are your boyfriend.

Answer 10

If he's such a good friend, talk to him. That should clear this up. Let him know that you would be interested in a relationship with him, but you don't just want to be a fvck-buddy. If you had a relationship with him that ended and were able to remain friends, it's likely that your friendship would be able to handle this conversation.