o.k. I am in this relationship with this guy.We have been going out for like alittle more than a half a year.I am 17 and he is 19.He is in College in Brookings,South Dakota.I go to a Private high school in Minnesota and am a junior.We are pretty serious like we have sex alot and yeah. He gave me a promise ring and we both want to get married to each other. I know it sounds like we are going alittle fast but, we aren't really.He will be in college for like 4 to 6 years and I hate waiting.He is a very patient person.I love him and don't want to break up but, thats along time being away in college.I do trust him though.He isn't like guys who cheat. I get to talk to him like almost every night and see him sometimes.Its really hard for me to think about him being away that long.Will it last?Will he change toward the worse?He says that loves me.
I am friends with alot of his friends and they think that it will last.What do you think?Please help me!I don't know what to do!
2006-09-22 09:09:58 · 15 answers · asked by babygirl_swt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If its ment to work it will...
Distance can only work if the 2 people want it to. I was with someone when I lived in Florida who was in Cali. Last 3 years... It was great... It only works as much as the effort you put into making that happen.
2006-09-22 09:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by Becka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I were dating in high school and very commited to each other. We thought about attending the same college but decided that we have to know if we are "for each other". So with a heavy heart we stayed together but went our seperate ways. I admit it is hard and understand why most relationships break up in college. We found new friends, discovered ourselves, and started on our career paths. Every day we e-mailed and everynight we talked on the phone. It was hard work to keep the relationship going on both ends but after four years we got married on Jan. 21, 2006! My advise to you is you two are the ones that have to make it last. Communication is key. My wife and I are living proof it can be done but you can't take a sideline approach to the relationship you have to make it if that's what you want.
2006-09-22 09:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mark S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships can work. I have been in one for a while now. But both people have to be willing to work hard at it. You have to have 100% trust and total communication.
But if you are not sure that you are willing to wait for him, then maybe you are not as in love with him as you think. I mean when you really love somebody, distance should not change that.
If you can see a good future together, and you are both working towards goals to make the future better, then try to stick it out. But if either of you feels that it is to hard or that you would like to move on, then be truthful to eachother.
2006-09-22 09:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off and focus on your studies and let him get his education, if what you have is real and meant to be then it will be and you two will be there when the smoke clears and the diplomas are handed out. The great majority of relationship that start this way with one in High School and one in college does not last. This is a time of great personal growth for him and you and you need to have that time to do that growing, allow that to happen, and like I said, if it is meant to be it will be. You may find that you two are two totally different people when all is said and done. Good Luck
2006-09-22 09:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You're too young to be commited to a serious relationship right now. You say your boyfriend's going off to college? Long distance relationships generally do not not especially not at your age. The best advise I can give you is...end things now, before he heads off. Try to end things amicablly, you don't want to burn bridges. Having him as a friend is better than not having him at all.
Good luck.
2006-09-22 09:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by Aine14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me you are only a teenager you have your whole life ahead of you. I am sure you love this guy, but trust me when I say they will be more. Let him go away and you go your separate ways don't put all your hope in this thinking he will come back to you. I am not a cynic I do believe in love and happy endings, but believe when I say if you guys don't survive this it will not be the end of your world. You are too young to be stressing about this. If he comes back to you congratulations your loved survive, but don't be surprised if he doesn't. That's just how life is. Best of Luck
2006-09-22 09:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by ny11203 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will it last 4 - 6 more years? Unlikely...chances are BOTH you and he are going to change, grow as people (into adults), and tire of not being together in a local area.
Odds are against it working out...long distance relationships rarely do.
2006-09-22 09:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard but it can last if you both really want it to. Just keep in frequent contact and have long talks. Are you going to be going to college with him later? It will be much easier that way. Long distance relationships can work.
2006-09-22 09:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this relationship is worth the wait than wait . you might not find someone like him ,you might regret it later when you cant fix it. if it is true love than love conquers all. and why are you doubting this relationship you say u trust him but i don't see it hun, the longer your apart the greater you will guys will be ,when you shall return to eachother the love you u have for eachother will be stronger. God Bless.
2006-09-22 09:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jay Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him then he's worth waiting on. There's not alot of guys who is worth waiting on. You know what I mean. Just trust him and give it a chance. You could do alot worse.
2006-09-22 09:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋