I can't potty train my daughter.?

Question

My daughter will be 3 in about a month. She is my youngest of 3. I didn't have big problems with the other 2. My oldest started at 1 1/2, and was potty trained a little after 2. My second was potty trained at almost 3, but with a lot of accidents. But at least she tried to make it.
My youngest doesn't care if she wets her pants, and then asks to wear diapers when I tell her she should go in the potty so she doesn't wet her pants. She used to get mad even if I'd ask her if she wanted to go in the potty. Now she'll sit on there and try, but has only gone a few times, which I praise her for, and get her all excited. When she wets herself, it seems like she likes it. I've given up on letting her go with no diaper. She likes the idea of wearing underwear like her big sister, but she sounds proud when she tells me she wet them. WHAT DO I DO? I've been changing diapers for 8 years straight, with only a 6 month break before my youngest was born. I'm still trying to let her set the pace though

Answer 1

Sounds like she is scared of letting go... like she's had "the potty scared outa her"...

Please try not to compare your past experiences with other children. Let your daughter discover that "making on the potty" is something positive and rewarding and not something she'd "better do or else...".

Make a schedule together with your daughter (this gives her her control back so make sure to follow her suggestions and make your own) ask her when she would like to use the potty ie: first thing in the morning, after breakfast, after getting dressed etc.. Help her follow her own schedule. Do not give any negative reinforcement - there will be accidents and that's okay!

When your daughter feels she can have control of her situation with or withour diapers she will feel free to "let go"...

Best of luck!

Answer 2

I am a mom of 3 as well. My youngest, enjoyed being the "baby". Including the diapers. I changed to cloth diapers, which were very uncomfortable and only used disposable at night. Use the sticker chart and reward her with what she likes. I'd also get the older children to encourage her. I wouldn't make a big deal when the accidents occur. Have "big girl" panties ready for her when she can go all day dry. Let her pick them out. I also had new sheets for them when they could go through the night dry. I would also put her on a routine of potty time, like after meals, play time and pre-nap/sleep times. Just be patient. I haven't seen any kindergartners yet in diapers. Hang in there!!

Answer 3

Stop changing her! She is getting attention for this, be it positive or negative, its still attention. Let it go for a few days. If she knows you really want her trained she will refuse because it is something in her life that only she can control.

Don't let her wear underwear for a few days. Count out the remainder of her diapers and say "After 7 more diapers you get to use the bathroom." Get a step stool for the adult toilet. Children like to use things that are real. Put her in clothing that she can easily get on and off without help including "big girl panties". When you see her doing the "potty dance" say "It looks like you need to use the bathroom." Give it no more attention than that. If you insist, she will resist. If she soils herself hold her responsible for all the clean up. She can remove the soiled clothing, rinse them out, put them in the laundry, clean herself, and put on dry clothing. She will soon learn that it is much easier to use the toilet. Hope this helps! Good luck!

Answer 4

We had a similar problem with my nephew. Turns out getting your diaper changed was very fun for him especially when my his Mamaw did it. And the going to the potty was a power struggle between him and us.

What we did was stopped talking about the potty at all but when we changed him we didn't interact at all with him. We kept a serious face and changed him as quickly as possible, no fun and games or anything.

Then we praised his sister, who was being potty trained at the same time, every time she went to the potty. I mean, big time.

WE didn't talk about potty training with him, we stopped telling him he was a big boy and needed to us the potty. We acted like we couldn't care at all whether or not he was potty trained.

Soon he was asking to go to the potty and we made a big deal of it when he went successfully.

Answer 5

this worked for all my young ones a charm. as ive got here across, young ones are constantly desirous to discover new issues as im particular you be responsive to. initiate of with getting a brightly colored potty or animal potty. tell her each and every time you sense the poo or wee coming run to the say eco-friendly turtle. advantages her on the beginning up. that is going to take a on an identical time as, yet via the years that is going to paintings. while it's time to pass to the large potty ie. toliet, make her sense as though that's a large female ingredient and he or she'll want to coach to you she is. sturdy success ! x Ava

Answer 6

Bless your heart! I use to have a Day care & I trained many kids, boys & girls. First I would make a chart with the names of the kids on it.
Then I would get some stickers and a treasure box with little toys in it, like from the $1.00 store. Then when the little ones would go, they wouls get a sticker that I let them choose & put on the chart. Then after so many stickers( you can choose how many) they could pick a toy from the treasure box!! This really motivated them to WANT to sit on the potty, even if they just tinkled a little bit. And you can even give a bigger suprize if they go all day without any accidents. This worked for ALL my kids. Hope this helps, Good luck!!

Answer 7

Well, the only thing I can tell you is what my parents did with me (which is kind of embarrassing), but whenever I went to the potty when they were toilet training, a good friend of theirs did the voice of grover who was (and still is) my favorite sesame street character. They would call him up and he would talk to me no matter what time of day in Grover's voice so I would always think i'm talking to Grover and I would tell Grover that I went to the potty. =) I would get excited about going potty and it worked like a charm. Good luck with training your daughter, don't worry, everyone learns sooner or later!

Answer 8

Keep doing what you are, it's almost over! Mine wasn't 'trained' until closer to 4, and it seemed to happen overnight.

It's somewhat of a control thing for some of them too. Mine is 5 1/2 now and still gives me a hassle about using the washroom before we go out. Last week I told her she had to at least try and count to 15... she had her nose out of joint and said "NO, I'm only going to count to 20!"... I let her win that one... LOL
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Answer 9

Sounds like she's just not ready yet. Stop training completely for a week or two. Just have her in diapers. Then give it a fresh start. She'll get there when she's ready.

Answer 10

look don,t make a big thing out of the times she wets herself, if she knows its annoying you, she may do it because of the attention she is getting. I know your fed up, but continue with the praise and ignore the accidents, and she will enjoy the positive attention more and. Your doing a great job, mum.