This guy while intoxicated who I don't know threatened to punch me while drunk. I sent him the following. He lives in my dorm a floor up.
09.20.06 11:29pm Randi: I'm just sad cause I meet you and you seem like such a cool person and I was excited to come up and visit you and ryan. You really scared me that night and made me cry. i'm really upset if thats how you feel cause i really like who you are. i'm upset you have bad feelings agenist me, but i was really upset and still shanken by some of the things which were sayed. I hope we can still be friends i would like 2 know why u have these bad feelings?
From: David
To: Randi
Subject: re: I ******* hate you
Message: if you ever think about coming over to see ryan, you had better make sure that i am not here. you ******* piss me of so bad; i almost broke my knuckels last weekend and i dont know what i might try to break next time. just dont ever let me see you again!!!
I'm scared. The police got involved. see more detials
2006-09-22 09:07:31 · 12 answers · asked by Coxie Megan 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
I showed the person in charge of the dorms and he called the cops for harassment. They yelled at him and they said the reason they got him saying this for was because whenever he saw me he felt ignored. (I am a relatively pretty girl I am always nice 2 everyone, and I have seen this boy like 3 time)
I am scared my parents are scared for me, I have never been threatened to be physically harmed by a boy. I am like 109 pounds and he is about 423. The police say I can get a restraining order but he would be kicked out of the school. The man said if I don’t do that he can be kicked out of the dorms but I might still see him on campus. He wrote a bull **** apology. I am scared what should I do.
Please if you read this give your opinion this is the scariest thing that’s every happened to me…
2006-09-22 09:07:40 · update #1
these answer are really helping. I Really don't ant to destroy someone life by getting them kicked out of school. but i am scared in my dorm and my family is scared for me. It's been a hard 2 days
2006-09-22 09:20:04 · update #2
i would just try to avoid him as much as possible. As long as he doesn;t try to physically try to intimidate you or harrass you - you should be okay. If he does harass you, or glare at you or make any threats, then I would go ahead and get a restraining order.
Don't even talk about him to friends, hang out where he is, totally avoid him. you should be fine. No more notes, apologies, anything - total avoidance and if he starts anything - you pull the plug on him.
good luck
2006-09-22 09:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by island3girl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once this cycle of violence begins, it will not stop. You must get a restraining order (there are differing types by state) as soon as possible. Some of these require the recipient to obtain anger management courses.
Stay away from this monster, even if it mean moving to another dorm. DO not contact this man again under any circumstances.
Be brave, be aware, and protect yourself by staying away.
All men are not jerks, I am sorry you had such a horrible experience.
2006-09-22 09:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Frogface53 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you understand that a restraining order is just a piece of paper and not a personal body guard, that might be the way to go, as long as you have alot of friends they know what he looks like, call the police if they see him on campus and you do take a self defense class, carry pepper spray and know your surroundings. I am really sorry for you because that isn't what a student deserves what a way to wreck you college experience.
2006-09-22 09:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, ok, it is clear that the guy has issues--even if we haven't heard his side of things, and only yours here in this question. But, it sounds like you just need to stay away from him. From what you describe here, it isn't like he is stalking you or on an active campaign to track you down and hurt you. He just doesn't like you or want you to come around his room. You have to respect that for now.
If you avoid him, and he still harasses you, then I would move forward with another step (perhaps the restraining order you refer to). But so far, all that has happened is that he said some mean things to you and threatened you while drunk one night. You invited the other response from him, by writing him a letter.
2006-09-22 09:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by retorik75 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's two possibilities: You're lying or this dude is a wacko stalker type. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and go for the latter. Get you some mace, stay the hell away from this dude and yes, I would probably get a restraining order.
2006-09-22 09:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by mutterhals 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This story is crazy. This guys is crazy. Honestly, you seem a little crazy. If this story is true, then my advise would just to try and avoid this guy. What has happened in your life to make you want to be involved with this situation? This is a very common type of story to people who had an abusive parent.
2006-09-22 09:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Take it from Toby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot to deal with! Take a really good self-defense course, not some y thing. Consider pepper spray . avoid contact with this person, he might be just a blowhard but who can say. If you want to keep in contact with your friend ryan talk to him about this, if you get enough people who will stand up to this creep it won't just be you aginist him.
2006-09-22 09:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by doktordbel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I know you've heard the term "speak softly but carry a big stick." This one is for YOU!!! Get yourself into some sort of self defence class immediately. Be nice, but always be on guard, honey.
2006-09-22 09:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it sorry is easy to say butmeaning it is something differant take out the order dont let him get away with it or just kick the **** out of him learn how to do it
2006-09-22 09:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by johnny boy rebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just stay out of his way. I'm sure he'll calm down if you don't mess up his life anymore. For example: getting him kicked out of the dorm or school.
2006-09-22 09:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by walkingdisastr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋