Is this normal? to find your daughter on the floor laying on her stomech (3.5 years old) with both hands touching her vagina? First it was with her cloths on, now its with her takine her pants off.
This is wierd?!?!?!!?
Anyone can answer if its normal??????
2006-09-22 08:58:36 · 23 answers · asked by Kosher1 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
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2006-09-22 09:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
This is 100% normal. A few answers up someone said something about 3 yr olds being innocent, but that's exactly what this is. The little girl doesn't know what she is doing, doesn't know its "wrong" or sexual. All she knows is it feels good, much the same as running bare foot through the grass. The only difference is YOU know what she is doing so YOU think differently of it. She does not.
I would just sit her down and tell her she shouldn't do that around other people, that like using the bathroom it's not something others should see. But don't make her feel ashamed of it, or this could potentially effect her sexually later in life.
2006-09-22 16:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kinzel99 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is normal, and not necessarily a sign of abuse. Babies can "please" themselves at a year old. Little girls have feeling down their just like adults and know that it feels good when they touch themselves there. As long as she is not doing it in public it's totally harmless. Talk to her pediatrician and she'll tell you the same. If she was inserting an object into her vagina then I'd be worried because that is a learned behavior.
2006-09-22 16:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should NOT tell her it's bad or naughty. It is NOT considered pleasuring herself. She is just exploring her southern regions. Even boys check themselves out down there. It's a natural phase that will soon pass.
Telling her that it's naughty or bad will teach her that it's shameful. Being naked and checking yourself out down there isn't shameful. She's gonna have to learn about that part some way or another and the best way is to let her figure it out on her own.
If you're worried that she's been abused, then take her to the pedi and ask if they can tell.
Good Luck.
2006-09-22 21:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it's not weird and YES it's normal
little boys play with their penis too
it's a phase, she just realized hey, this feels good
don't encourage the behavior cause then she'll end up thinking it's OK to do all the time, but also don't put her down or make her feel bad about it either
she's just exploring her body and there's nothing wrong with that
2006-09-22 16:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is completly normal for both boys and girls to become interested in their parts especially now that they are out of a diaper and have free access to themselves. Try not to make a big deal about it and just try to draw her attention away from it by doing some different activities with her that she likes and the phase will pass soon enough.
2006-09-22 16:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by sooz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Completely normal for a child this age to explore her body. Don't scold or shame her for it, but you should advise her about the privacy of her room. Children this age have no idea about sexuality...it's just wierd to you, not to her. Can make a parent very squeamy, I understand! Don't worry...your daughter is perfectly normal.
2006-09-22 16:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by Legs 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is normal I have two girls and both have explored their bodies..Check that baby center web site..I also belong to that and it has great info on it. So don't worry it is normal....boys this age do it too.
I would also like to add that not every child that touches themselves are being sexually abused. Most children that have been abuse tend to shy away from touching themselves...
2006-09-22 16:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jesabel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She isn't "pleasing herself". This is a normal part of exploring her body. When she was a baby she found her ears, her hands, her mouth, etc. It is the same concept. You need to explain to her that this isn't something she should do in public. That it is a private place. You should also start explaining to her that nobody is allowed to touch her "prrivate place" except mommy and daddy.
2006-09-22 16:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by vickie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal.
Girls are just as sexual as boys--it's just not accepted.
Boys will play with their testicles because it feels good.
Girls play with their vagina because it feels good.
It's not like she is masturbating or dirty--she doesn't even know what sex is yet! She is just exploring--as boys do. Parents don't talk about their daughters doing this because it's not cute. Where as we can joke about our boys because it's "normal." Why is there a different set of rules for boys and girls?
2006-09-22 16:04:12 · answer #10 · answered by .vato. 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal! Hard to accept, I know, but totally normal. Not much you can do except try to explain to her that it is a "private" thing, and she shouldn't let anyone else see her "private" areas.
Girls are no different than boys when it comes to physical pleasure......they like it too! My 2yr. old son plays with his penis EVERY chance he gets.....can't keep his hands out of his pants!
2006-09-22 16:11:03 · answer #11 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋