So I was making out with this guy I bin seeing (who happens to be the IT guy at the place I'm doing my degree...i'm almost 22 he's jus turned 25 and he is in no way my teacher but we still have to keep it quiet) on my sofa chair and when we started havin sex it really hurt (this wasn't my first time with him) and he stopped and lifted me up n put me on the bed and was real gentle with me and the whole time was jus lookin into my eyes...very intense...he was soooo gentle with me i couldn't believe it...Was he putting it all on or was there some kind of caring emotion actually there?? Is it all an act so he can keep having sex with me?
2006-09-22 08:41:43 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're just doing it with someone that you're not totally into, what does it matter. But in all seriousness, sounds like he cares for you, or at least cares for your well-being......as to not want to hurt you or cause you uncomfort. But if he's going into it as well, seems to be he likes the time you spend together, but isn't that concerned over a serious relationship.
2006-09-22 08:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would a guy kick up the charm to keep sleeping with a woman... if he were a player, he'd only want to sleep with you once. so that's out. and if he was just looking for a "friend with benefits"... you can't really dupe someone into being that unless they're totally stringing you along and you're naive enough to go for it. it's very possible that he's into you and really cares but it's also very possible that he's using you for sex. what kind of arrangement do you have? there is a lot of information thats missing in order to be able to give this question a valid answer.
2006-09-22 15:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "trick" to get you to sleep with someone. Either you do it or you don't. You did it and it sounds like you liked it. Actually it sounds really romantic (I love eye contact!). But what really concerns me is the fact that you still have to "keep quiet". Why? Does he have someone? He probably does. If that is the case, run the other way before you find yourself involved in some stupid drama. If you really like someone, you want to share it with the world!! Not keep it a big secret. Use your head.
2006-09-22 15:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion the only way to find out is if he keeps asking you out. If so then I think he's really into you. Whatever you do...don't bug him. Call once in awhile but don't call every 5 minutes. Keep your distance unitil you know what he wants for sure. If sex is all he wants...playing hard to get will surely drive him away...but if he wants more then he'll stay close and keep trying to hang out with you.
2006-09-22 15:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by Amber R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl homeboy is a playa from the himalayas , and damn good at it. In Player high school they teach you the basics like make sure you give them good eye contact, pimps use that too - girl you are about to get your heart broken. I hope you're using condoms cause homeboys getting plenty of pum' pum'
All the girls just love it i bet.
2006-09-22 15:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must think so , are you would'nt be ask the question . Why is it you have to keep it quite? maybe he's got a girlfriend or maybe he is married. that's the kind you really got to look out for because they will use you for sex and have it with her and others. be careful . plus he's sounds too good to be true so, there must be something wrong. think about it.
2006-09-22 15:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether he feels emotion/passion during sex or not, may have nothing to do with how he feels about you when the two of you are not having sex.
If you like the sex and want to keep having it, the do so...but don't worry about ulterior motives or "does he really like me" or not...at this point, it's moot anyway...you've already been 'had'...
2006-09-22 15:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I think you should ask him this. If this is more than just casual sex for him he should be willing to actually sit down and discuss your relationship with him, you fears and insecurities and his feelings.
If you gives you the Mr. Smooth routine and starts quoting love songs or movies, run away.
2006-09-22 15:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by Onegoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. all an act.
Men are all just evil beings that lie and fake all their emotions simply to get lil willly wet. it really is a huge conspiracy we men have against women because we are jealous we can't wear make up.
For Pete's sake woman!!!
if it was good for you just accept that it was good.
2006-09-22 15:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your nickname is appropriate for you!
Do you really think someone can answer this question for you?
I was not there, they were not there, and non of us know him or you.
DID you feel real emotion?
That is the question you need to answer for yourself.
Stop analyzing everything this poor fella does, it is not healthy and really not fair to him.
RELAX and enjoy the moments of this relationship or it will be gone.
2006-09-22 15:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by Queen Fromage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋