Ok I need some advice. Why is it that I have so many guy friends that wanna date me and they fight each other over me all the time even when I have told them to stop? I have never in my life found myself in the least bit attractive! Do you think they are just tring to prove a point to me or is it they really like me?? cuz I don't know any more and I am scared to ask in fear of looking more like the dork I am lol so please tell me what you think! THANKS
Wild Vixen
2006-09-22 08:37:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you leading on a bunch of guys? You need to just pick one and brush off the rest. That way there won't be any need for anyone to fight.
You can't stop them by asking them to stop. You can only stop them by ending the competition.
2006-09-22 08:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you should stop thinking that you're not attractive. that's a major turn-off for any sex and no one could be hurt with a little more self-confidence. i'm not saying to go around saying that your the next paris hilton or whomever you want but just always find something that you like about yourself and work with that.
second are these guy friends really good friends? like best friends? if so then they need to respect your request and stop acting like a bunch of 3-year olds fighting over some action figure. you deserve someone who isn't going to freak out because you have other friends. it totally sounds to me that they are trying to prove a point but not necessarily to hurt you. more like you're the trophy and they all want it. my suggestion is that you should spend some quality time with each one and find out which one you'd rather be together with. if any mind you! once you find one then just straight up ask him what's going on or if he wants to take the relationship a step further. if the other guys are you friends then they will respect the decision and let it be. if not and they act immature about it then forget them because they basically wanted you as a trophy and that's it. and as for you being scared to ask then you need to either get over the whole situation or grow some guts because you're never going to find out unless you do so. this isn't something you can ask a friend to do...you have to do this yourself...not matter how scary. try this tactic because it worked really well with a guy friend of mine: see, there was a little rumor started and all i simply did was ask him about the rumor and ask him about what he had said. he told me that he remembered saying it and that he didn't mean anything about it. we're just friends. simple as that and we're still really good friends. so simply ask your guy friends why are they fighting with all of your other friends. they'll end up telling you the real reason without you even having to expose your true emotions. and that way if you do get an answer you don't like then you can pass it off as you being a concerned friend and leave it at with none the wiser.
2006-09-22 08:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the way you look at it. If they're really close friends they could just be trying to make you feel good about yourself(not saying your ugly because I don't know) and if you really think that some of them like you then just go with it. I mean..hey.. there's nothing wrong with hooking up every now and then. As long as your not hoeing around and it's not with every guy you hang out with.
2006-09-22 08:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by Amber R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just tell them all that you are not interested and if some day you are you will let them know , but that you cant continue to be thier friends if this is the way that is is always going to be. tell them that instead of having fun with them as friends you always have to watch to see what they are going to do next cause of how they like you and your just not into any of it anymore. that you would like to for once be able to feel like a normal friend not someone everyone is fighting over. something like that should work. distance your self if it doesnt and see what happens.
2006-09-22 08:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, relax. if a guy finds you attractive.. or a bunch of guys find you attractive than you are lucky. if you dont like them fighting over you just tell them that you dont want to go out with any of them and if you ever catch them fighting over you again you will never go out with those peeps. if your not sure whether they actually like you or are just faking it just smile and brush it away every time. eventually they will get the hint.
2006-09-22 08:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by georgeonfridays 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha, yeah ok. Well you are beautiful as hell. Most men would walk through fire just to get next to you. You are worth fighting for and in the end you will get the strongest of the species. Enjoy the carnage, you deserve it!
2006-09-22 08:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them your not interested in guys that like to fight and that it's a turn off for you.
2006-09-22 08:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only a couple wayz a man can even like you either its sexual or its emotionally and you have to find out by asking secret questions to find out what you want to knoe
2006-09-22 08:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Pretty B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your have the ugly duckling syndrome. when you where young you decided you weren't attractive so you worked on your personality. and now that your older you still think that but you arent cute but you have a great personality. but you have both and your very lucky so have fun with it
2006-09-22 08:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant help being amazing sweetie enjoy the attention x
2006-09-22 08:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋