My bf of one year now is severally emotionally scared from past marriage. His son from this marriage is the only one he truly is completely open emotionally to. How can I break down his walls and let him know I'm not her and I'd never hurt him like she did?
2006-09-22 08:32:25 · 11 answers · asked by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be warm and supportive, and give it time.
Whatever you do, don't nag at him about getting married, or about how unreasonable he's being. Nagging is one of the surest ways to convince him NOT to marry you.
2006-09-22 08:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't be able to stay your existence for anybody else yet you - no longer your kinfolk and in no way him. You hint around the question, yet per chance that's time to ask and answer it: do you decide on to save residing like this? are you able to think the ameliorations he says he will make? How a lot is your existence and your wellness well worth to you? no you could inform you what to do or a thanks to sense and per chance that has been the issue - why no longer merely ask your self what you decide on and desire and keep in mind that in some time jointly he has no longer been waiting to attempt this for you or for himself. each so often, inspite of the non-public of affection and kindness, we received't restoration some thing - fantastically no longer someone. you supplies you all you've yet interior the suitable, the ameliorations he needs to make will probable no longer carry and also you'll be left conserving the emotional luggage and the outcomes - yet another split and yet another heart wrenching set of possibilities. positioned your self first this time and sweetness what you want and desire.... solid luck
2016-11-23 15:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sunshine
Only time heals wounds I guess reassurances help out and let him know that you love him and he needs to live in the present and not in the past it will only bring heart ache and sorrow but let him know that you are here for him and be patient and supportive of him he'll come through someday
2006-09-22 08:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really hard he will eventually loosen up when he is ready to I guess its a trust issue he is scared to totally let himself out there cos hes still got fears of getting hurt. hope he comes round soon. all the best
2006-09-22 08:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by malaika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot break down his walls, only he can.
Continue to be who you are, and he'll open up more as he feels safer with you.
2006-09-22 08:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you shouldn't do is push him when he's not ready. Stay by his side and give him time to be comfortable enough to fully open up to you and trust you.
2006-09-22 08:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tough. My husband is like this. he denies it though. We are going to do marriage councelling.
2006-09-22 08:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to deal with his own issues. Maybe he needs councelling. Just be there for him, it's up to him to let you in.
2006-09-22 08:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him tlc that he needs, let him know you are there for him and re assure him that you do love and care for him and will not do the same as he has been through
2006-09-22 08:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by amethyst2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont. all his bs is in the past,if he cant get over it you have no future. a few good pity sexsessions havnt cured him yet,RUN!
2006-09-22 08:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by swashbuckler82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋