Can someone give me some advise?

Question

I am 26 yr oldfemale - I am feeling really out of sorts, I am having trouble sleeping, eating and generally functioning - i am either asleep or in tears! I was on Floroxitine when i was younger, but i have not got a very good recolection of how i felt then conpared with now On the outside i hae nothing to be miserable about do i feel selfish thinging that I have aproblem when i seem to have the perfect life...... I have made an appointment with the dr on monday but i dont know what to say to him. I seem to get this tension build up and i could literally throttle something, is this normal or am i cracking up. Please help I want the old me back.... I just seem to be getting further and further away from who i was i am not sure how to get back. I have awonderful partner job and flat but ........................

Answer 1

I went to the doctors with the same symptoms last week, once i started telling him, it all came flooding out. he is helping me with medication and support. i feel better just being able to talk to someone. keep smiling and take care x

Answer 2

Sounds like things are getting abit tough.... your dr will advise you about the treatments available for your feelings and symptoms. There are VERY GOOD medications and talking treatments available now.

The newer meds are better than the older ones. Don't worry they are non-addictive and may take a few weeks to work. If you start with them be patient and keep at it - they really do work! All of a sudden it's like "BAM" i start to feel better!!!!

I work in mental health and have done for the last 13 years. I also take daily medication for depression. I do not want to be without them - this is not addiction. There is no craving, nor is there a resistance built up over time - you don't need to take more to keep the effect going (although at the start you will likely begin on a low dose that will increase to the therapeutic level)they are simply an effective treatment. Life-style changes can have a positive impact to. Avoidance of alcohol in the short term is good plan as alcohol can increase the feelings.

Of course we look to justify the depression - "what have I to be depressed about?, what's wrong with me?, I think I'm weak...." and so on. All these are unhelpful. If you find yourself thinking like this make a real effort to stop and take 2 minutes to re-evaluate. The same statements can be turned around, "I have a good life...even though there are times when I feel low these will be temporary... I am strong and l am dealing with this."

The cause for depression does not need to be tangible. Yes indeed we may get depressed as a reaction to bereavement, or job loss or other life changing event. Or (like myself) depression can just occur. It is not about strength or weakness - depression is about chemicals. The feel good chemicals produced naturally in the brain may not be at their optimum level. Serotonin is one. For me taking a medication that has the effect of increasing the serotonin level has a wonderful effect on my feelings of doom and gloom. The type of medication is known as SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors), though there are other types available. Your doctor will advise you on the type of medication that will suit you.

I could go on... but i won't. i will just finish with wishing you all the best - these feelings really are temporary and can be treated. Enjoyment of life and all it envelops will return - the old you is still there and you will soon be realising that again.

Best of luck, pete

Answer 3

Take in a copy of your question to the doctor. Because you describe yourself very well. You are experiencing depression and you could talk to him about medications that are available now rather that what you took when you are younger( medications have changed a lot in the past few years) also try diet and exercise changes along with finding things to do that make YOU feel good. Try also some couseling or keeping a journal to help release the tension. I have keep a journal since I was twelve (I am now 31)and it really helps.

Answer 4

I got to a point where I was so angry on the inside I told my dr. I just wanted to claw my skin off, pull my hair out and scream myself hoarse!! The angry was all directed at myself though. They had to switch my RX a couple of times till I got one that had no side affects I couldn't handle and made me feel better. I honestly feel like my old self again.
Considering I am in the middle of a pretty nasty split from my husband and I am handling it without hurting him or losing my mind I would say this RX is best I'd had.
Be completely honest w/dr. even to point of telling him you have no clue what to tell him.
You definitely sound depressed but there could be more going on also so tell him any and everything you can think of.
Hope all works out good for you.
By way being depressed like you are describing is different from being depressed by things in your life, that usually fades as circumstances change. Your depression sounds like one caused by chemical imbalance in your brain and considering this do not let yourself feel bad b/c your life is wonderful but you still feel bad. This is not something you will be able to shake on your own.

Answer 5

You sound as if you are in exactly the same situation as me. I am also on Flouxetine, but it seems that it is now no longer sufficient. I am going to try speaking to my doctor, and telling them everything - I have made a list of things and hope they will listen. The feelings you are getting are normal for the depression. Make a brief diary and tell the doctor how you are feeling. This is what I am doing. Good luck.

Answer 6

Sounds like you may be clinically depressed.
You need to explain to your Doctor how you feel, and then take advice about what to do about it.
It may be that your doctor advises anti-depressants, but don't be downhearted if other suggestions are made.
Sometimes increasing your physical activity, by going for a brisk walk every day can help, or looking for a new interest which will take you out of your normal routine, or indeed, being referred for counselling, as often talking about how you feel can help to solve things, see if you can identify a time when you started feeling as you do, as it may help you find out what is wrong.
Feeling guilty about how you feel is normal, you know that you have a nice life, but are still sad, for inexplicable reasons. Your partner seems to be supportive of you, and I am sure will help.
Hope you feel better soon

Answer 7

well done for being honest with your self, you do sound like your suffering from a bout of depression, some people cant admit to that . just say to the dr what you have said to us all. the doc is 1 person, if you can do it to us you can tell him. i'm glad you have the support of a partner that will really help, i'm sure things will come good and you can get the help from the dr that you need.

Answer 8

Prior to visiting your doctor, you may want to read about mood disorders especially depression and anxiety. Try to see which symptoms match your own so you can recall them for the doctor. If you think you are depressed read about bi-polar disorder to rule out manic episodes as depression and bi-polar depression require different medications. If you think you are depressed read about anti-depressants, how they work and their side effects. There have also been posts on this website about difficulty getting off certain anti-depressants and there have been news articles on Yahoo about new warnings that some anti-depressants can result in violent behavior (which may include suicide). You might want to determine which ones you are comfortable with and which you are not. You may want to take printouts to the doctor's office in case the doctor is unaware of something. If Prozac worked for you in the past, you may want to mention that to your doctor as well.

You should be back to your old self in a week or so. But, many people who are depressed feel like they have everything and don't know why they are depressed. So, I think it is important for you to read articles, books and websites on how to condition your mind to avoid depression. There are a lot of happiness studies out there that may help.

Answer 9

I often write what I wnt to say down to the doctor. Show him this, and you will not have a problem with what to say. I think a lot of people feel like this at some time in thier lives, so do not think you are cracking up. Have you tried counselling to try to get to the bottom of this?

Answer 10

You poor soul. You sound as if you have depression and you need counseling badly. Get to that doctor and pour your heart out ot him and I am sure you will be refered to someone who understands what you are going through.
I wish you luck and all the best in your future life of happiness.
Bobby Mc Ferrin once sang "Don't worry be happy" listen to the words and try to do what they say.
Cry and you cry alone.
Smile and the whole world smiles with you.

Answer 11

I have often felt like that when I have had to see the doctor about my depression. Doctors are trained to spot such things and yours will know which questions to ask and will also observe your body language. I am sure it will be all right, but make sure you tell the doctor exactly how you feel. Good luck! :-)