i have a son who is 6 years old and would like another child but my partner insists that he dos nt want any more children now or in the futer what do i do .
2006-09-22 08:01:45 · 20 answers · asked by sharpe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You can't force someone to have more children.
2006-09-22 08:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The truth is, children need two parents who desire them and want them. If that is not the case, then the partner who doesn't want children wins. It's sad, but for the sake of doing what's in the best interest of little people, it has to be that way. Maybe he will change his mind in time, but you must both be in agreement if you are to bring more babies into the world. If the baby's environment is not stabe before he/she is even born, then it won't be stable afterward either. That won't be good for anyone, including your marriage. Then your 6 year old son's future will be at risk too. I hope he comes around in time. If not, then love him and your son with all you've got.
2006-09-22 08:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has got to be a hard question and I truly feel for you. If you've sat down and had the heart to hearts then he probably won't change his mind.
If you do get pregnant chances are he will leave. To have to swallow down something you want is difficult and I do not envy this decision.
Me? I would be thankful for the son I have and leave it at that if I loved my partner. If things were shakey I don't know what I would do. It's hard being a single mom with one child let alone two.
2006-09-22 08:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and have respect for your partner as he seems to have done this for you.
You need to think about whats most important to you, your partner or another child. Your partner has made it clear you can not have both with him. His honesty is commendable and could save you both a lot of heartbreak later.
He has given you a chance to look within yourself and be totally honest with yourself rather than not tell you and allow you to head into disaster. He has given you choice and that's always a good thing.
This is a very serious choice to make. I think you release this.
Take some time to think deeply if you can live without another child or without your partner. You are so lucky that you are not already pregnant with an unwilling father to be. Choose wisely.
2006-09-22 08:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by Nicola H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 15:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You remember that your first responsibility to any child, is to provide them with two parents who want and love them when ever possible. What you should do about the fact that your needs and goals are not the same as your partners, that's an entirely a different question. Good Luck.
2006-09-22 08:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children seem to be a point of controversy in a lot of relationships. First don't start nagging. Be content with the son that you have and spend as much time with him doing fun things Try to include your husband in as many family outings as possible.Why is it that he doesn't want more children Rationally ask him. It could be that he is feeling overwhelmed with trying to provide for the one son that you have. Maybe he feels left out ? You don;t know if you don't ask.
2006-09-22 08:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he is probably wondering the same thing. Tell him you would like another child and if he is not willing then ask if you can adopt. See if he has a good reason as to why he does not want more kids. Other than that it is a personal fight that i owuld put up. My hubby only wanted two. We have two girls, but now I am pregnant with a boy and he is very excited.
good luck
2006-09-22 08:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask why he doesnt want children and try to determine the root cause. Once you have done this there may be a possible way forward. That said, having children has always been a prerogative of women as opposed to men and I dont know of any woman who wanted children who didnt have them as long as they were medically able to do so.
2006-09-22 08:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Paul M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose between another child and your partner. It isn't fair to bring a child in to this world if it isn't wanted by both parents.
Have you spoken to your partner about this in detail? It may help you deal with this if you understand exactly why he doesn't want another child.
2006-09-22 08:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious talk with him and come to some kind of a compromise. Do not let this be swept "under the carpet" only to resurface many years later.
2006-09-22 08:20:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋