more than 1 kid? I have dated but tired of dating. I have been divorced for almost ten years and I am ready to settle down. I have been told by my male friends that they would not get in a serious relationship with a woman with more than 1 kid. Their words are "too much baggage"
Hurt by their words.
Disgusted with stupidity
Tired of the bad guys
Not sure if current guy is good since he is younger
What is the truth to living single and alone?
2006-09-22 07:58:53 · 19 answers · asked by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im sorry I cant say that that is true.You see after i was a single mom for 8 years, 3kids,couple dates, i thought i would never find someone too but i met this guy who also had 3 kids and a single dad. Now we have been married six wonderful years and have six kids.Life couldnt be any better
2006-09-22 08:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Baby Girl 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are men who are not afraid to step up and be with a woman with kids. See, the men are usually the ones who get to walk away from a relationship without the so called "baggage" but they like to judge the women who take care of, nurture and raise their offspring. To me if a man doesn't want to be with you just because you have children then he is not worth a second thought anyway.
I raised my two children alone and single. My kids are now 19 and 22, one is starting college and the other is already through college and working in her field. They are both not living at home anymore. I have a great guy in my life who has taken me on even with the baggage. Lets face it, even though the kids are grown and leave home, we are still mothers and our kids will always come first! Baggage is a part of life. If you haven't got any baggage then you haven't lived!
2006-09-22 08:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I am in the same boat. I am 37 with 4 sons (ages 8, 14, 16, 18) Hell I even have a 7 week young grandson. I have been separated/ divorced for 7 years. I think it depends on the guys because ALL guys need to know that when I am ready to get in a serious relationship - he dosen't have to worry about my kids because my kids are MY business the guy need only worry about ME!!! I am NOT looking for a father or a stand in daddy....(I gots that covered) I think more than anything guys may be intimidated but that intimidation would end once we have a conversation. Don't worry hon, there are guys out there for US.
2006-09-22 08:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The TRUTH to living alone and successfully is to NOT rely on what others say about you -- and to just be comfortable as a SUCCESSFUL SINGLE and not rush or force yourself into any relationship.
Really, just be happy as you are -- the children should be already starting to transition out, and in 4 years, your last officially becomes an adult in the eyes of the law.
So that is where you need to focus on -- the fact that soon, you WILL have your life back once again, to live on your own terms, and NO MAN or child can dictate the terms of how your home flows or is arranged or have to pay for someone else's food, etc etc etc.
2006-09-22 08:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they all live with you??? Your kids are older which means they are less likely to be willing to accept someone new in your life. The younger they are the easier the adjustment. And if you are one to have many men in and out of your life then you can most definitely expect an uproar at home.
There is someone out there for you but don't try so hard. Focus on having a good time and let things develop from there. Women don't need a man to be complete and only you can make yourself happy.
2006-09-22 08:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you wait another 4 years until the youngest is 18 and out of the house before restarting the man-hunt? Then your kids are all adults and you're not exactly carrying baggage- you've raised them up.
If you've been dating and looking for a man for 10 years, maybe try to devote these last 4 years to the youngest kids-- I'm sure they'd appreciate your undivided attention for a change.
2006-09-22 08:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
alot of guys dont want an instant family, when dating mom,as far as a younger guy goes,depends on his age and what hes looking for in the relationship.
2006-09-22 08:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty i dont like women with kids
i tried but just cant
too much baggage
dont need another man invading my space
it s not insecurity but the fact of the interruption wil get to me
i prefer women without kid
and if i get a little older and have to settle the most i will accept it
one
2006-09-22 08:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i don't think that's true because my father-in law married my mother-in law and she had 5 kids they were married for 52 yrs mother-in law passed away 1 yr ago father law still claims the children and still are close i think you just have to let the true guy find you
2006-09-22 08:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by fancey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about what my friend said, your children are damn near grown, guys may only feel that way if they are really young, and even then they don't deserve you if they can't except your children so (Fcuk Em!)
2006-09-22 08:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by lildemon78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋