Right, If u haven't seen my older questions and noticed the trend, I'm single (never would have guessed based on some of my stupid questions).
Anyway, I've been single a long time (6-7 years give or take a month) and I really want to go out on a date again (and get laid, it's been so long I'm not sure if they changed it).
Well, I've been told I'm getting too desperate (which is probably true) so I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions of how to not think about needing a date, how to get that desire out of my mind (at least until an interested girl turns up).
I think I can already hear the sniggers from u lot, but I don't care. I'm getting to that desperate place and don't really wanna stay there, if u all know what mean? So any suggestions on how I can take my mind off the need to date would be appreciated.
2006-09-22 07:52:01 · 22 answers · asked by Knight-wing 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i understand, trust me i understand. if people snicker, then they relate. you are being human. we all want love and affection. i am in the same boat...however, we must be patient. otherwise, we will settle for.......and i don't want to do that.
2006-09-22 07:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok you're going about this the totally wrong way. You don't need to get laid. If you only want sex without any emotions, thats what you've got a hand for. What you're heart is looking for is a companion, someone to be with, someone to take care of, someone to look after, somone to love, someone to go out with, someone to have fun with. There is no way that you are going to find this person if the only thing you're thinking of is how to get laid.
I suggest that you go out more and get yourself some hobbies, join some evening classes, go out and enjoy yourself, wherever you like to go, go on holiday, go anywhere, do anything. This will take your mind off being single. Enjoy being single, you can do whatever you want, buy whatever you want and go wherever you want. Take advantage of this. While you're busy with your exciting new single life, you would have forgotten about your need to be in a relationship, and thats the time that you're most likely to find a girl, because you won't look so pathetic, instead you'll look like a fun-loving, carefree guy.
At this point, you may find a girl, or rather she will find you, you just have to notice her. And thats the beginning of a whole new relationship.....
Another thing, you should have sex with someone that you are in a loving relationship with, otherwise you will just be using her and that isn't nice.
2006-09-22 08:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by lakmii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out to a bar. Sit and have a few beers and wait. A girl will walk in and she will be alone. It doesn't matter what she looks like or how she's dressed. You will take her home, use protection and get all of your pent up frustrations out. If she's kinky, do her in the parking lot or something...just get laid first. Worry about dating later because you probably are too desperate and a girl can smell that a mile away.
2006-09-22 07:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try bromide in your coffee!
Just get on with your life, if someone is meant for you then you will meet them. Being part of a couple is not the bee all and end all of life. Sad that people think it is. Lonliness sometimes sends people into the wrong direction, don't go there. Don't believe the hype, you are an island. If you are meant to join another island make sure it's for all the right reasons, not just the chemical kick in your brain...what the bleep, 7 years is not a longtime, a simple blip in consciousness!
2006-09-22 08:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Calamity Jane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you only sound desperate because you talk about getting laid rather than getting to know someone. it's the most off putting thing to someone who would like to get to know you. be careful as you will attract women who will take you for a ride that you won't want. you don't state what you want clearly and this gives mixed messages. be honest are you really wanting to get to know someone, fall in love and make a commitment and life together. that's not desperate it's just stating your wants and if you try online dating you will find some genuine people. if you are only out for sex you'll find it gets sadder and lonlier the older you get. life is just not meant to work that way. check out the laws of attraction at www.eft-talk.com if you say you're desperate then that's what you'll experience. re-language it. how about saying you are open to an new experience of love every morning to yourself in the mirror and start by loving you enough to only go for the best in life and caring for yourself. good luck. i was on my own for 8 years..met someone..split after two year..three months on own again..then met my lovely fella.. going together 14 months now. so you see it works!
2006-09-22 08:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol u think ur desperate? ive been single for 3 years and last booty i had was over a year and 4 months ago. i just go on with my life and do what i do. im 29 and want a family really bad, ive been told stop looking. so stop looking hang out with your friends and dont be so obvious on wanting a date. it will happen when it happends. hell i want a freakin date too, but im so shy i think thats what has stopped me. but anyways just enjoy life and you will get a date when the right time comes along. dont be so desperate. take up a hobby.
what i do is collect football cards go out with friends play pool normal guy stuff. to get this off your mind pray and ask God to help ya out.
2006-09-22 08:12:38 · answer #6 · answered by texasdaddy2009 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not giving dating one last shot? You could try personals, internet dating, blind dates. I find that giving up something is too hard unless I have a big blow out first! Just don't care about the risks or the rejection, just go for it! Maybe give yourself a month like this, and if nothing happens get another job, or a new hobby or something to fill your time.
2006-09-22 07:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I'd think seriously about why you havnt had a date for so long. What are your expectations? Are they to high? Do you set yourself unrealistic goals? Whats the comman factor that has put women off?
What do you want from a relationship? Women are going to spot "desperate for a shag" from a mile off. Sure thing to put a woman off. One things for sure if you go out with the attitude that your not gonna get a date then you wont. Good luck mate
2006-09-22 07:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet dating works I met 49 guys and one specificly asked me for sex while he was in town when we met he later said was ok if we didn't. We had dinner walked along the street talked alot and later went to the motel. We'll he didnt' work out cuz he did live far from me but today I am married 2nd time around with number 49 we also got lucky the first night but also fell in love. Good Luck!
2006-09-22 08:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u r still normal , still think of the need of having someone.but if u just want to stop thinking about if for a while, all u need to do just by doing activity that u like/think is good for your life/your future.
do u know approximately what make u always fail with your desire to built a relationship ?
u should solve that first.
2006-09-22 07:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop wanting it and it will come to u. i found that if you want that bad it will never happen.i was on my own for a while with a baby and thought i never find some one. but when i stop looking and having a good time love came my way.so just go out and have fun love will find you when the time is right.
2006-09-22 11:19:53 · answer #11 · answered by twinmum1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋