If a boy & girl are both 14 are they too young to date? Like going to a movie or whatever, if supervised?

Question

They are both good kids.

Answer 1

No. They are not too young. As long as there is adult supervision. I wouldn't trust older teens to "double date" with. They may be too distracted to watch the 14 year olds.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with a supervised date. If they don't like the supervision- then just tell them no dates until they are 18 ( well atleat your child)

I would jet them kind of do their own thing while on the date- pretty much- sit a few rows back at the theatre etc., but while having dinner or something engage conversation that they both can relate to - something like school, teachers, etc.

It may be a good experience for you and your child this way you can teach your child what to look for and avoid with the opposite sex and how to read others body language etc.

have fun on the date- maybe you can bring a date too- so it's more like a double date instead over you just "watching" them- but still give them some space

Answer 3

That's a tougher question than it appears at first glance. As the father of a daughter who is now 18 and just off to college I can tell you that during those years I was more interested in setting boundaries. It wasn't that I had any concern of her doing anything wrong (especially since she would have been supervised as well) it was more about everything having it's time. I don't believe 14 year olds are emotionally ready to embark on a "relationship". Physically, a child’s brain is not even fully developed at that point and cognitive reasoning skills are especially vulnerable---which is why so many young people make so many poor decisions if left to make them alone.

Your daughter can still enjoy her young friends company at school, maybe after school in supervised settings etc. In my opinion, I don't think there is any "up" side to training her on dating at 14---give her a couple more years to be a kid and mature a bit more. There is however a "down" side. It could lead to emotional difficulties that affect her studies, her relationship with you and her family and, in a worst case scenario, a pregnancy.

With no negatives coming from holding her back from dating and only the possibility of negative repercussions for allowing it, I think it most prudent to not condone or approve it. You may be viewed as the bad guy (or girl), but it is not the job of a parent to be your children’s buddies. It is our obligation to provide them with the best chances for success and happiness in life.

Good luck to you!

Answer 4

No, they are not too young. But 14 is a little old to be supervised at the movies!
I'm 14 and I definitely wouldnt want my parents coming along on a date. And besides, what is a 14 year old going to do at the movies other than sneak a kiss or two?

Answer 5

I think that early dating - at such a young age, is practice. They learn to interact with the opposite sex, experience some relationship problems and issues, learn what to expect in a relationship, and they learn about themselves, too. I believe if you start with tight rules - like supervised and early curfew, etc - they can earn and learn their way to more independence and later hours. Present it as a learning experience to the young person and explain to them that they are early in the process. Let the kid have a chance to voice their worries and wants to you and be respectful to what they want to do. Respect doesn't mean that you agree with them. Just that you care about what they want and how they feel.

Answer 6

I'd say whether they are supervised or not is not the problem, If two kids know the consequences of moving too fast for their age, they are more than likely not going to do anything they'll regret. I'd say it's normal to date at that age. I did :)

Answer 7

Isn't 14 a little old for supervision?

Answer 8

I dont think they are too young if you want to be supervised, fine do it .. Talk your parents into it..its not a bad thing as long as you are good kids any dont try any thing dumb..stay smart

Answer 9

supervised should be fine...but technically speaking its not a date. i wasnt allowed to actually date until i was 16. which i see as a good age for the average (not all) teen. these of course were unsupervised

Answer 10

Come on...just think back to when you where that age did you want your parents in the movies with you. Times have changed. Drop them off at the movies and pick them up when the movie is over. Talk to your child about it. You should be able to trust your child. Chances are nothing is going to happen.