my daughters sitter....?

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my daughters babysitter...?
Today, on the way to lunch, my hubby drove by the sitters home and our 1 yr old had followed the other kids onto the porch. Mind you that this porch is several feet high. About a little over waist high. She was standing on the edge holding onto a pole. The sitters kids were also outside with no adult? Her & her hubby was both there. She said she was on the potty & he was doing dishes. Now, I don't understand how this happened? She happens to live on a major highway also. So, my hubby glances up, sees her, turns around and comes back, gets our daughter & knocks & screams at the door for the sitter 4 or 5 times. Finally her hubby comes to the door and is like ..."Whats going on" . So, needless to say..I don't know what to do?? I know what I should do, but she is my friend and her hubby is our associate pastor and I kinda feel wrong in doing it....any suggestions? BTW, my hubby thinks she is not taken care of while she is there...she has came home dirty more than once...

btw..I just went to work a month ago and resent every moment of it...But, bills have to be paid . every one isnt rolling in the dough

Answer 1

Well, kids do get dirty. With her being only 1 year old, it might be that the older kids are getting dirty and just passing it along.

Her being out on the porch? My daughter is only a few months from being a year old and heaven help the person responsible for her being outside with no adult supervision.

I'm sorry, I understand that this person might be your friend and he might be your pastor, but your child comes first! If you feel the need to sit down and talk with them, fine. Let them tell their side of the story. But if their story doesn't end with, "we're very sorry, we were completely wrong and it will never happen again", I say they don't get another shot.

Yes, people make mistakes. But when you are charged with the care of a child, one little mistake can have tragic consequences. If it were my child, they wouldn't get a second chance.

Answer 2

If the sitter has been a friend of yours through the years; you by no means want to hurt her by telling her you think she's a horrible babysitter, but the fact is-is that your child is your #1 priority, she comes first no matter the situation at hand! Mabee tell her that you would prefer her to keep your daughter inside while the other children are outside playing, that you are concerned that she will fall off the porch and hurt herself, tell her what your husband experienced that day he drove past her house and how that made the two of you feel! Let her know that if what you're asking of her is too much that you don't mind looking for another sitter! Tell her that her friendship means a lot to you and if keeping track of your childs where abouts are going to get in the way of that then you will find a new childcare provider, no hard feelings! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

Find a new sitter. There is no excuse for neglecting your child. You might lose a friend and feel uncomfortable at church but your daughter would be safe. I live down the street from a daycare, I thought that would be convenient for when I go back to work. We went over one day to play and the lady left me outside with like 10 kids I didn't know without saying anything. She was gone about 10 minutes and came back with 2 more kids. I'm never going to take my kids there, even though it would be a good way to get in good in the neighborhood clique. Your daughter's safety comes first!

Answer 4

i think its about time that you find another sitter or you need to have a very serious conversation with her and let he know the consequences if this may happen again. ask her to clean your daughter also before she comes home. This is your child and you want to make sure they are getting the best care when you are not able to give it to them. sitters don't come cheap nowadays either, just remember that your child is the most important thing in your life, and if this sitter is not trustworthy in watching after your little one, get rid of her!

Answer 5

I believe that you might want to look into getting another sitter because of you finding the kids out side with out suppervision. But the whole dirty thing kids will be kids and somedays she will come home dirty i know my daughter does just depending on that days activitys

Answer 6

You already stated that you know how you feel..!!

There is nothing wrong in looking out for the well-being of your child.., always.., with-out exception!!!!!!!

The extreme would be to turn the matter over to child services..,

your not.., you just want what is best for your little one, and that
means a safe place being observed at ALL times.

Follow your gut feelings.., they are rarely wrong !!!

Answer 7

i had the same problems, i let one of my good friends watch my little girl and she would come home filthy and hungry so as a mom i understand how it feels, my suggestion is to find a new baby sitter before this problem ruins your relationship with these people but, remember they might not be bad people, all parents do not raise their kids the same.

Answer 8

I'd find a different sitter asap....there were two adults there...there is no reason that a one year old should be left unsupervised close to a major highway. I'd almost consider that child endangerment. Downright scary, from one mom to another.

Answer 9

She may be your friend and he the associate Pastor.. But when it comes to your child then you have to do whatever you can to keep your child safe..... And from what you say that is not the safest environment for your child!!!!
If your husband has a gut feeling then go with it..
Good Luck!!

Answer 10

I say never mind the sitters feelings and start looking for another sitter.