I mean if you look at the state of things these days people never get married anymore, so what is the goal behind dating and looking for that 'special' other person now? Is it just friendship with 'benifits' that we're looking for or do people just get together because that's what we're meant to do? What do you think?
2006-09-22 07:07:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you completely missunderstand love and relationships. First of all it's natural to be attracted to the opposite sex. Second we're human and we hate to be alone most of the time so we seek companionship. Third we need the companionship of the opposite sex for more then just sex and procreation. We need to feel needed, desired and loved. These affect who we are as a person. Want proof? look at a baby when it cries and it's lonely or hungry it's in danger sort of. Cuz without the human touch it will die eventually lonely and unloved. When some one takes the time to love and care for that baby what happens? It get's nurished and loved and feels better and even may sleep peacefully in the persons arms. Why? Because it got what it needed. It's the same with us. It's better to have a relationship loving marriage type or moving towards that with the opposite sex becasue of our needs also a woman in some cases can love a man better then a man can love a man and the same goes for a man loving a woman in some cases better then a woman could love a woman. See we kind of complete the opposite sex in certain cases. And what does the state of things have to do with it? People are in love not only because they love being in love but because they're natural human beings following the laws of nature. God made us that way.
2006-09-22 07:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because divorce rate is hieghtening doesn't mean that everyone is giving up on love. At the end of the day, I think you will find that marriage rates are also heightening... they just only publish the bad figures! I am engaged to be married sometime in the next two years and I couldn't be happier. Yeah it took me a long time to find my special 'one' but I would hate to be without him. For people that said it all about sex - you are vewry shallow to think that... Marriage and love is all about finding your best friend, lover, guider and protector. So I guess you could say it is friendship with extras thrown in - but I personally think it is a lot more than that.
P.s. I don't think it is what we are ''supposed'' to do because before we evolved, we were just shagging anything and everything to reproduce. We have just attatched feeling and emotion onto an instinct which is to carry on the Human Race! Fact!
2006-09-22 14:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by brumbeep 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that marriage just isn't what it used to be. But it's because people aren't willing to give 100%. They just give up way too easy. Very few take the word "commitment" very serious. I see people getting married all the time, but they end up divorced not long after. People in the old days stuck it out. They loved their spouse and was willing to work through any problem that arose. I don't know I just got married and I have told my husband that I promise to give all I can to this marriage. I made a committment and a promise to God and I intend to stick by it. There have already been hard times and we worked through it.Yes it was hard, but love requires some work. Maybe people are just too lazy? I find that I realize just how much I love my husband when we work through an issue and our relationship holds up while doing so! Making it through the hard times strengthens my marriage.
2006-09-22 14:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the guy is just looking for regular sex and the woman is looking for a suitable father for her children. It's a biological necessity with a bit of added tradition just for good measure! Ultimately, neither sex understands the other and they just bumble along assuming that this is the way things should be because tradition says so!!!
Men are rarely monogamous and women wish they were!
How did we get ourselves into this state I do not know!!!
2006-09-22 14:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Fluffy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we have relationships to make lurve and to repopulate. Lets face it the meaning of it all is to help the human race survive... but some relationships are pointless and yes some ppl do have them just 2 have them. Sometimes you have 2 wonder if the best 1s to have are the no strings 1s
2006-09-22 14:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by sad_but_pretty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I will celebrate our 4th anniversary this January. I know plenty of people that are married or getting married. Being in a realtionship and getting married means making a commitment and it provides stability.
2006-09-22 14:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because not all of us have decided to look at love as jaded as you do. Myself, I see marriage and family as something I want because I want to take Society's loss of moral, value and mutual respect and shove it right back in their face. Comittment is not supposed to be so dang awful! I feel badly for you, mostly. Don't give up if you really want something special. It feels AMAZING to have it and if your smart and capable of growing with that person, your life will be enriched.
2006-09-22 14:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Procreation
2006-09-22 14:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm happily married and I know loads of other people who are. Marriage builds communities. Look at the animal kingdom - i.e. swans for inspiration.
2006-09-22 14:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by gerbiltamer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People do get married, but they tend to go through a "wild" phase first. Kinky sex is much more in fashion now than ever before.
2006-09-22 14:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by martin h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋