2006-09-22 07:05:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ask why you can't meet them, suggest that you would like to and then just be friendly, relaxed approachable and honest with out trying too hard to be their friend. be interested in what they have to say, ask the questions about themselves. They will then feel valued and respected. They may even find it quite disarming if you are able to tell them that you were worried about meeting them and why.
Finally don't try to demonstarte too much affection to your partner until you know them better, let them get used to you first. i know that they are older children but you are still with their parent and thus still little boys at heart.
Good luck!
2006-09-22 07:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son, who was 21 at the time, point blank refused to meet my new partner. He decided that of his own choice and I respected it.
Whilst I had never had all that many partners after I split from his mum many years before he just decided one day he wanted me as his dad but desired no contact with anyone else in my life.
Don't be confrontational about this, how local are the lads to you?
suggest that you would like to meet them, somewhere where they feel comfortable
2006-09-22 07:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Martin14th 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her about it. She might have a good reason, she might not. But at the end of the day you have been together for 4 years so that is abit wierd that she wont introduce them to you.
I think that if she has been in a past marriage (which I am guessing she has) then maybe her two boys, even thouyght they have grown up now, might not be happy to meet you because they only want their father (that is if he is still with us). Which ever, good or bad, you need to think about both scenarios and ask her... otherwise, it might end up in tears!
Goodluck
2006-09-22 07:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by brumbeep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet them on neutral ground - its going to happen sooner or later - dont wait for them to make the first move -
good luck -hope it all works out for ya
2006-09-22 07:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by adddrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to meet them, tell her you really want to express how you feel about it, and hope for the best in your relationship good luck mate.
2006-09-22 07:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by charlescooldude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurry up and meet, the sooner you get to meet them, then the more you can consentrate on your realationship without worrying
2006-09-22 07:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by tanya.loake@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By this time you should have met them. That is strange. Why is she hiding you from them?
2006-09-22 07:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by Robin N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arrange to go for a meal,invite them along
2006-09-22 09:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what the reason is seems a long time
2006-09-22 07:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by liz r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet them
2006-09-22 07:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋