GIRLS only i need some advice.!?

Question

i am 14 and i just found out that i waz preg. today. How do i tell my mom?

my 20 year old sis took me 2 the doctor bc i thought i waz,its not a false alarm its true....sad...but true and i dont want to abord the baby its a humingbein.

Answer 1

Honey, the very best thing you can do is just be honest. Thank your sister for all her help & support & share your thoughts and feelings with your family. They are the only ones that will be there for you for life. Stay strong, keep your head up & remember, God doesn't make mistakes.

Answer 2

You say "I was pregnant" are you still pregnant? If so then you need to decide if it's the sort of thing that you can discuss with your mom. Is your relationship good? If not you may want to consider having someone else there for moral support. Has your doctor confirmed the pregnancy? If not you should probably see you doctor first, it may be a false alarm.

If it's not a false alarm; do you intend to have the baby/keep the baby? This is a lot to be thinking of right now, but they are questions that you need to ask yourself.

At 14 this is a lot for you to deal with, if you can't talk to your mom right now then you should speak to a counselor confidentially.

I feel that I should warn you that your mom is probably not going to take this news well, at first. She will probably want to know who the father is; why you were having sex in the first place at 14 and why didn't you use any contraception?

Once she is over the initial shock, things between you should get better. Just remember your mother loves you and she knows that you are probably scared right now. Just sit down with her and be honest. Tell her that you love her and that you have something important to tell her.

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

I don't think there's going to be an easy way. Just tell her you need to talk about something, let her know you've been having sex (if she doesn't yet), and then tell her your pregnant. She's going to probably be as emotional as you are. If possible, have your sister with you since she took you to the doctor, she must be some kind of support for you, right? Take care of yourself, get to the doctor for your appointments. It's exciting and scary I'm sure---heck I'm 27 and it's still scary! But talk over your options with your mom, the baby's father and hopefully a parenting clinic or something like that as far as keeping the child or adopting it out. Good luck and let your mom know you are ready to make educated decisions about this now.

Answer 4

I have been in those exact shoes .... I was 6 days from my 15th birthday when my daughter was born & she is now 15 . I was so scared but let me tell you something sweetie the sooner you tell her the better . Just be honest we all make mistakes I made the same on you made ( not that your baby should be called or labled a mistake ) we make bad choices in life sometimes but you know she is going to find out & it would be much better if you told her than if she heard it from friends or if she notices you gaining weight ... Im sure she will be hurt & upset but the sooner you tell her the better you'll feel & the sooner she & you can start talking about it & working it out ... good luck sweetie & take my advise tell her soon the best time is now & the best way is 100% honesty

Answer 5

The best why to do it is just to tell her.
She maybe upset and disappointed in you, but I know she would rather hear it from you than anyone else, and please tell her first don't let her be the last person you tell.
That is what my mom always to me. and I have been there were you are now. Well I was 17, but my mom was the first person I told, she took me to all my Dr's app. and help me when I was sick in the mornings and while I was having my first child, help me change pampers, and should me how to be a mom. Ever since then my mom has been my best friend.
All I can say is Good luck, I wish you the best, and take care.

Answer 6

It breaks my heart to see this as a question. First, because I can only immagine what you're going through and Second, you are so young, why couldn't you have waited? Regardless, what's done it done.. you'll need to discuss with your mom. Chances are it's going to be a huge shock to her that you've even had sex. I would tell her how you made a wrong decission, that you are willing to take responsibility for the desicion you made, and them let her know. She will most likely be hurt and upset... prepare yourself for that now, but telling your mom is what's right for your child. she can help u through this. You're going to have to do a lot of growing up in a short ammount of time. I wish you the best

Answer 7

You just have to tell her. She may cry--this is normal. Tell her everything will be okay. You need to be mature and disscus the options you have with her. If she gets angrey to the point of abuse--leave the room, she should calm down after a while. The main thing about telling her is to remail mature. Don't place blame on her or anyone else. Go to Planned Parenthood or another pregnancy help center in your area to get more information about your options and health care.

Answer 8

there is no easy way to tell your mom but you may want to talk to an older relative that is close to you mom and that u can trust first but if that is not possible then just take a deep breath and tell her that u two need to talk and tell her straight up there is going to be yelling and screaming and crying so be prepared but do not wait until the last minute to tell her and don't let her hear it from somebody else that would hurt her too much so just ask god to be with you and pray baby girl and its going to be OK

Answer 9

This is the best way I have heard of doing it. First the a friend, teacher, family member tell them about it and ask if they can be there with you to tell your mom. Then the three of you sit down and you tell her. The best way possible to me is not to try a explain first, just say it Mom I am pregnant, then explain tell her what your plans are. Let her talk. If you feel that you can not talk, you have that extra person to talk for you, have them tell for you.

Answer 10

Ask your sister to be there with you and help you tell her. She is going to freak out but after time she will calm down. Be sure to discuss all of your options. If you don't want an abortion, you could always put your baby up for adoption.

Good Luck.