currently we are broken up and i have not talked to him for days but i want to so bad.how do you let go of something you love but know is bad for you?
2006-09-22 06:48:05 · 14 answers · asked by Danielle L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Walk away..........................
Just walk away.
2006-09-22 06:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by dirftwood22 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
The best advise I can give you is LOVE ISN'T ALWAYS ENOUGH! After 4 years I'm sure you are tired of breaking up and getting back together over and over!!! How exhausting!!! Try and move on! It will be hard at first but you will see after awhile it will get easier!!! I had the same thing for 10 years!!! Its such a waste of time!!! Life is too short!!! I know you wont see this right away but if you just try to move on maybe start dating or whatever you decide to do, it will become easier!! I just don't want you to make the same mistake I did!!! 10 years!!! I moved on and now I'm very happy with someone for the last two years!!!! There is someone out there for you!!! This guy probably isn't the right one even though you love him so!!! Its OK to love him, but you also need to love your self!!! Be happy!!!
2006-09-22 07:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by TBONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to make yourself let go. Doesn't really sound like a healthy relationship...and you yourself even said it was bad for you, so at this point, you have to make a conscious decision for yourself that this is the LAST break-up, and you will not be seeing him again. Don't be his doormat.
When you get the urge to call him, or want to talk to him badly...do something that will occupy you. Having a hobby is the best thing that can help keep your sanity...reading a book, going to the lake..whatever you like/want to do...but whatever you do, DO NOT CALL HIM!!! and please don't pick up his phone calls, because it's time for a change.
Four years is a long time, so you should use your "single time" as getting to know YOURSELF.
Pray and your future "wonderful" husband will come along...
2006-09-22 07:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by Chanel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been in that situation a few times in the past. Yes, it is really hard to let go, even though you know someone is not for you. You know you have to untie yourself, but still... Some of the things I did to forget someone I really loved was to erase his telephone numbers, his e-mail address. I also threw away his pictures, cards and gifts and even stopped going to the gym, because he was a member there too. I did my best not to run into him, didn't accept his calls. Maybe you can try something along that line... Good luck.
2006-09-22 07:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by suki's mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh you so need to move on! If he calls, don't answer. He he comes by, don't answer the door. Avoid places you used to go together. Take up a hobby, something fun and exciting that gets you around lots of people, hang out with friends, read. Most importantly, fight this feeling of wanting to be with him. You might have to change your lifestyle a little, but it'll be worth it.
You know how to let go, you just don't know how to stay gone. But something in one or both of you is telling you that this relationship is not meant to be.
2006-09-22 06:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, your relationship is a bit like a hand grenade...it explodes when you least expect it to. And the instructions to throwing a hand grenade are "pull the pin, drop and walk away", which is exactly what you should do - drop the news that you're leaving him for good this time, forget the relationship and walk away. A person who repeatedly hurts you has no place in your life or heart, unless you are masochistic.
2006-09-22 06:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
CUT THE CORD!!!
Sounds like your addicted to him in a bad way; stop all contact with him!!! Go out looking for new!
2006-09-22 06:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THAT IS THE REASON WHY HE DOESN'T TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY AND YOU KEEP BREAKING UP. IF YOU CALL HIM RIGHT AWAY AFTER NOT HEARING FROM HIM HE KNOWS HOW TO GET YOU TO KISS HIS A.S.S.
F.U.C.K. IT DON'T LET HIM GET TO YOU AND WHILE BROKEN UP HAVE FUN AND PARTY TILL YOU GO BACK, BUT LET HIM KISS YOUR ***.
2006-09-22 06:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm maybe u guys aren't meant to be together and u are just together cuz it's what u think seems right i mean u may really love him but he may not be the one.
2006-09-22 06:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by Joanna G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont wast your time leave move on i had a friend back and forth with her man for 8 years she finaly gave up and now she realy happy we are married dump him move on
2006-09-22 06:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by greg m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its hard... got a same problem, but not for such a long time. best thing to do, is find somebody else. say no,a nd keep ur ground.
2006-09-22 06:51:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋