We want to elope and get married....just us two. Its romantic to us that way. But we both have children from previous relationships and close family that we would like to include in our celebrating. So we're thinking about having a reception where we can exchange our vows again in front of family, and have a nice reception. Is it wrong to have our wedding in a different order?
Thanks for reading....any answer appreciated.
2006-09-22 06:43:01 · 43 answers · asked by Chicabonita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no it doesn't
2006-09-22 06:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by 185 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT'S GREAT!!! This should not be a problem so long as everyone knows that they are attending a party for an eloped couple. I've had a few friends who've eloped or married out the country and promised a reception afterwards. I've been dissapointed each time because they were guilted into not throwing a party. We all need good things to celebrate, even if they are not in the order we've been conditioned to expect. Good Luck and Please DO have a party afterwards.
2006-09-22 06:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by nan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not at all. i'm engaged and we're not sure how we want to do it either. my mom was actually telling us to elope and then just spend the majority of our money on a honeymoon or getting a house. a reception after is a great idea. you could even have a house warming party to celebrate a new family in your home. even if you've been living in the same house for years! a friend of mine lived with his fiancee for many years,she had a child from a previous marriage, then they got married in the vatican. of course, family and friends couldn't be there, bc of expenses. but then they came back and are planning a reception. it still doesn't change how we feel about them. tacky or not i say get married how you want. it's your day and you should spend it how you feel.
2006-09-22 06:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by importance of being wilde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know what you propose is really selfish. Part of the reason of a wedding ceremony is to get married in front of your family, friends and wider community, then later to have the reception to have everyone celebrate your union on that special day. It won't be the same to re-recite your vows, now will it. Maybe you can have it the traditional way, then go away on your honeymoon. You will be away from your kids long enough, anyway.
2006-09-22 09:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of people who do that and don't see anything wrong with it. I am not a traditional person in the least but I could never do anything like that myself. Repeating the vows at the ceremony doesn't make any sense to me though.
You have to decide what works best for you. And realize that there will be people who will be offended by your choices. A number of people (especially those who are elderly and thus steeped in traditional values and etiquette) would much rather just receive an announcement that you were married in private and leave it at that, no reception later, etc.
2006-09-22 08:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe so, no, afterall its what I'm doing. My Financee and I are both young (22 and 27) and I don't want the whole church thing, just our close families so once we elope we're coming home and having a big reception.
I'm having problems with figuring out if I should wear my dress again to my reception, haha, and if its OK to have bridesmaid in dresses at my reception even though there was no ceremony beforehand. my Bridesmaids are my family, Mom, sister and sister in law.
If you need to talk or can answer my problems, contact me, haha.
2006-09-22 14:48:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! We did it that way. Planned our wedding to take place in Jamaica (great place to get married by the way). Eight people went with us and used the time as their vacation, and after the actual ceremony we had a small reception and then went to dinner and out dancing with them. Afterwards, they disappeared (honoring our honeymoon) and we only ran into them when we wanted to.
Sent out invitations (before we left) to come join in a "marriage celebration" instead of calling it a reception. to take place when we returned. While we did do some of the traditional things (first dance, cutting cake) we treated it as if it were a big catered party...in fact, we kept our theme of Jamaica with lots of reggae music and Jamaican foods. Yes we did get some gifts but that to is just what some people traditionally do, if they didn't bring anything that was cool, we just wanted to celebrate our marriage.
But the absolutely best part was that I got to wear that expensive wedding dress twice!
2006-09-22 07:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really...but you may want to make it a destination wedding instead. If you're eloping to a fabulous destination and making a vacation out of it, then you could invite some close family to come out there with you for the nuptuals and have them stay in a different hotel then you. This way nobody is offended that they couldn't be there and you get to have a small intimate wedding. I'm sure if you explained that you wanted your honeymoon as "alone time" then they wouldn't be offended that you didn't want to hang out with them for the whole time.
Just a suggestion...
2006-09-22 06:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not tacky at all. You two have been married before so it's should be about the two of you. I think it's better to celebrate it with each other first and then celebrating your love for one another with your family. It's great too because it feels like your marriage lasted a week rather than just a day. =) CongRAtS!
2006-09-22 07:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great idea. I'm in the process of planning my wedding, and I wish we could just elope and then have a reception with family and friends. Congrats !!
2006-09-22 06:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These days nothing is tacky. That is what a lot of people are doing. For some people it is a way to save money for others it is because of romance reasons or stress reasons. This is your wedding and you should do it however you are comfortable. You should not start your marriage off on the wrong foot after all!!
2006-09-22 09:27:34 · answer #11 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋