Sorry bad speller! If you are putting together a wedding shower at a resturant, do you have to cover the cost of everyone's meals?
Can it be no-host? Do you just provide appetizers?
2006-09-22 06:31:33 · 17 answers · asked by emilyjohnson21 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Try Spell Checker. And if you host the shower, YOU pay for the food!
2006-09-22 07:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all up to you. It is assumed that the person giving the shower is covering the cost of all the meals and extras. However, so long as you are up-front and let people know that you are collecting $xxx for an upcoming shower and payment is expected up front, then you'll only get grumbles from those who are not understanding or compassionate with the funding situation. Please note, that some people will reduce the amount of their gift to the guest of honor by the cost of the meal. None-the-less, whether they are paying or you are, have extra cash on the side for those who take extras (i.e. those who'll order an espresso and put it on YOUR bill when it was never included in the first place.) Good Luck!
PS... Appetizers is great only if you host the party a couple of hours before or after lunch. If you are not doing a full meal, note it on the invitation so that you don't get a group of hungry people, which can turn ugly fast.
2006-09-22 06:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by nan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it is just a bunch of close friends of the bride getting together to celeberate the wedding and not an actually shower where guest are supposed to bring gifts then no you don't have to cover the cost of everyones meal.If it is a true bridal shower where guest are expected to bring gifts then yes you are the host therefore you must host or pay for their meals but it not totally bad ettiquette just to have drinks and appetizers.
2006-09-24 06:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no polite way to invite people to take THEMSELVES out to dinner.
Host the type of shower you CAN afford, even if it's just cupcakes and lemonade on your front porch. NEVER pass hosting costs off to your guests. That is totally rude.
There is no such thing as "no-host," when you talking about something you're inviting people to. "No-host" is something that happens spontaneously with a group of friends: "Let's all go out for pizza together" When you're talking about something involving inviting people, the person (or people) doing the inviting is the host, and therefore encumbers all responsibilities of hosting, which includes paying for all food, beverage and entertainment. GUESTS do not pay for any of this.
If you can only afford appetizers and soda, hold the shower at a non-meal time of day and indicate on the invitation: "Light Refreshment" so people know a meal will not be served.
2006-09-22 19:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to serve meals, then yes, the person(s) throwing the shower should pay for those meals.
But you don't have to have a full meal.
I just threw a wedding shower a couple weeks ago. I threw it from 2-4pm on a Sunday. Then it wasn't mealtime, so no one expected a meal and I just had appetizers and drinks.
I don't quite get what you mean by "no-host", but there has to be someone, or a group of people, to put the shower together and pay for it (other than the bride and her mom.... don't want to look like you are just asking for presents).
Feel free to email me if you have another question.
Good Luck!
2006-09-22 08:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went to a shower at a restaurant recently. The host covered appetizers and drinks. The person I went with and I hadn't eaten anything since the evening before, so we ordered off the menu, which we were responsible for. I recommend talking to the staff at the restaurant and seeing how many people the apps. serve. There were about 20-25 people at the shower and they had like one of each of their appetizers. And less than half of the people there actually ordered dinners.
2006-09-22 06:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by Cheyenne 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Typically whoever throws the shower pays for the food. But lots of people have like all of the bridesmaids go in together and divide it up equally. I would say like one person pay at the restuarant then have the other people pay them back (too confusing at the restuarnt) Just keep it small just a few friends.
Yes, you need one main host. Somebody who is going to get up and say we would like to welcome you all here today to celebrate this bridal shower. If you play games you can have the other bridesmaids help out. Most of the time when you go out to a restaurant you have a limited menu so they can't order the most expensive thing. You would need to contact the resturant and set this up with them.
2006-09-22 09:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to cover the cost of everyone's meals. You cannot invite people to the shower and expect for them to pay for their own food and drinks.
If this financial burden is too much for you, I suggest not having the shower at a restaurant.
2006-09-22 14:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on who is coming and how you want to put on the shower. For instance, if you all wanted to go out to lunch first and then go somewhere for the presents and cake, you can ask them to pay for themselves. That way, someone who did not want to/could not pay for the lunch, they could still attend the presents and cake (which are the most important parts, anyway).
Otherwise, if you're doing the whole thing at a restaurant and it is during a mealtime, you should provide the guests with a meal.
If you're doing it a a restaurant and it's NOT during a mealtime (say 11am or 3pm), then appitizers/snacks would suffice.
2006-09-22 06:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by CH 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on who is coming. If it is a bunch of friends from work and there is no host then everyone can pay for their own meal and the meal of the bride. If it is for family and friends outside of work then the host needs to pay for the entire meal. Usually there is a limited menu. You can have multiple hosts and that can defray much of the cost.
If you want to go someplace that is not expensive look for a locally owned deli or tea room. They will usually work with you on a lunch menu that is relatively inexpensive.
2006-09-22 06:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whomever is throwing the shower has to cover the cost of the food. I suggest you just do appetizers and have your guests pay for their drinks.
2006-09-22 06:36:40 · answer #11 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋