2006-09-22 06:17:45 · 26 answers · asked by karen w 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ignore him when he lies and give him your full attention when he tells the truth.
2006-09-22 06:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him biblical stories about the ten commandments and how those who don't adhere to them will burn in hell.If this doesn't work show him films in which honest people who don't lie are rewarded in life.Also tell him if he lies the law might get hold of him.
In a nutshell this lying phase will pass away as every individual goes through it.Just laugh it off and show him that mummy knows that he is lying and always tell him it is bad.Inform him that one day he will be telling the truth but since he always lies mummy will not take him seriously.
Invent stories which justify that lying at times can be disastrous such that he will start to see that even if he is in the wrong you will pardon him.Tell him of a boy who used to lie to his parents such that when a fire broke out in his bedroom, his parents just shrugged him off until it was too let to stop the inferno and they ended up being homeless.
Although noone was hurt, the boy lived to regret ever lying to his parents.Just try that and if that doesn't yield any positive results, then give the young guy a break as the habit will die down with growth.
2006-09-22 07:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many people say treat others how you would like to be treated and don't do to your kids what you don't want done to you......in my experience (which isn't a whole lot but worked) is, lie to him, get him excited about doing something he loves and then tell him you lied and do not do it. Then express how much it hurts when he lies and what consequences can come from lying when he's older. Use that has the punishment, then he'll be mad about not getting to do whatever it is you lied about and he may think twice about it next time. Ground him when he lies, take away video games, games, anything he enjoys. Praise him for telling the truth, don't give him a prize for the truth or he'll expect that, but just let him know how proud of him you are for being so honest.
2006-09-22 06:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are too strict and punish him for everything,of course he will lie you to avoid your punishments.If he feels he will get beated or punished for his mistakes(something what everyone does!) he will lie you and it is natural,not only he,everybody will lie you.So stop punish him - let him make his own mistakes and give him the chance to learn from these mistakes.Explain him what is trust and be kind while talking to him.When you hear something which you think is lying,tell something like this: "It sounds me as a lie.I wonder what the truth is..." or "Are you afraid to tell me the truth"(don't forget to be kind).You can also tell him that you need to be sure he is telling the truth because you love him and need to know that you can trust him.Tell him you won't punish him for his mistakes.Actually you need to change your discipline style.If you don't want your child to lie you,you better do something.Buy the book "Positive Discipline for prechoolers"(I know your son isn't a prechooler but there is explained how to react to lies and also many other things,how to use positive discipline,etc).You can also buy "Positive Discipline for teenagers"(not so long time after,you'll need that) or "Positive Discipline from A to Z".The author is Jane Nelson.
2006-09-22 07:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by julie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is he lying about? Are his lies harmful, or to get himself out of trouble, or his he just making up random stories about his day? My 8 year old will tell these elaborate tales about what happened during his day (think about the book And To Think That I Saw It On Mulberry St), but they do not hurt anyone, so I just let it go. Kids at that age have HUGE imaginations, and I personally feel that it is important NOT to squash that. Now, if he was lying to me to avoid getting in trouble, or to hurt someone else, that would need discipline, and I can normally tell the difference between a truth and a lie in that respect... When he tells a lie like that, which isn't often, he gets a privledge removed or something taken away. Sometimes he gets grounded to his room. Depends on the severity of the lie. My babysitter would flat out call him a liar when he told a story about his day, and as soon as we stopped doing that and making such a huge deal about it, he pretty much stopped lying to get himself out of trouble. If I patiently listened to his imaginative ramble instead of calling him out on it, he seemed to trust me more with his feelings and wouldn't lie about the stuff that got him in trouble. That's just my experience with it.
2006-09-22 08:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by sokkermum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your at your wits end and hes having a laugh about it. Try to ignore the little things and focus on the bigger ones.
Then whatever his favourite thing is take it away for a day the first time. Two days the second etc until the behaviour stops.
All children seem to go through this period and it will end, promise.
2006-09-22 08:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to ask yourself why he is lying to begin with. Is he possibly looking for more attention, even if it happens to be negative attention? My 8 year old responds very well to withholding privileges, such as a birthday party next weekend, but lying we haven't encountered yet. I would suggest this as a form of discipline, and positive reinforcement when he does tell the truth. Best of luck, no one said parenting would be easy.
2006-09-22 06:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by talula 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lie back. Plan it carefully, for maximum impact. Or maybe not. My two would forever be late coming home from school, until the day I was delayed and they didn't know where I was and -shall we say- they got a bit panicky. Never dawdled after that.
Teach him that life goes a lot more smoothly if the people we rely on tell the truth, and is incredibly awkward otherwise.
2006-09-22 06:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by Tertia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
L have always told my 7 year when he is in the bath to say anything he wants lies truth anything its hes time for make believe
but when its out side his bath time he must tell the truth and he won;t get into trouble no matter what he has done (??your parenting skills come in on this one) but if he lies toys are taking away for one day up to a week.
2006-09-24 10:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by jodu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends why he is lying. If it is to get attention, give him positive attention and hope the lying goes away.
If it is just bold-faced lying, a good spanking works.
Both my kids have been there, lied, got spanked and there was not a repeat.
Like I said on a previous post, lying destroys the fabric of a family.
2006-09-23 00:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First make sure that he knows the difference between truth and lie. Then explain that you are more angry with being told a lie, than you would have been in the first place. (I take it he is lying to get out of trouble) If he is making upstories then confront him with the truth
2006-09-23 07:16:38 · answer #11 · answered by oldbutwise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋